I moved on! And so can you!

[simplicity1]

I was posting in this forum about two months ago, completely hooked on a guy with a girlfriend of 5 years who claimed he was going to potentially move around the world for me and in general was just messing with my head. I fell deeply for this guy. He would consume my mind every single day, I'd let in the flood of feel-good texts and stories and debates, and then before bed reality would hit and I'd crash and burn.

 

And then, some day arrived where I finally allowed my rational mind to take over, and with every ounce of willpower told him to stop contacting me unless his circumstances changed. That it was just too painful and damaging for us to try to revert from romance (of sorts) to friendship.

 

He repeatedly tried to contact me but I held pretty strong overall.

 

And then, remarkably, I met someone through a site I'd been on for two years already with absolutely no luck. But this guy was different. We hit it off, and not only did it make my no contact process easier, but my emotion for this new guy grew and grew each time I saw him.

 

Well, this weekend we had a talk and we're boyfriend and girlfriend now none of this nonsense of fighting for a man with a 5 year girlfriend living on the other side of the planet who was willing to strip down my defenses because he wanted the thrill of a new romance but also the stability of his current girlfriend. No. This new guy is all mine, wants to be all mine, lives 10 minutes from me, and isn't going anywhere at least for now

 

I remember when reading through all the posts in this forum it was really helpful to read the occasional story of this sort, where people free themselves from the grips of an unhealthy love interest and find something better, whether it is another man or just finding themselves again.

 

So heres to hoping that you too can assess your current situations with a bit of rationality and navigate your way to a better situation one way or another. Because for most people, and certainly for me, deep emotion for a committed man was a recipe for emotional turmoil. Good luck

[vanellope]

it's very nice. read your story make me good mood now.

I am in love with a married man, and recently I want to make this relationship to the friendship.

 

it's hard work becasue i still love him but i also know this relationship is not going to anywhere. sometime trap in the thinking that i can't meet anyone that i would love more.

 

thank you for your post, it's encouraging and let me more believe that i can find someone who really belong to me in life.

[Silverbirch]

Thank you for taking the time to share. It really does give me hope, especially as my situation mirrors yours and I've just done the break and going through the no contact withdrawal myself.

[Popsicle]

Great great news. You give us hope.

[Goodbye]

Thanks for posting this. I think it is important, when you are in the throws of grief, to read that there IS an end. My "end" didn't come as quickly as yours, but I too have (mostly) healed and no longer give a hoot about the exMM.

[Dog Woman]

Thank you for posting. For someone like me who has ended an affair, your story has given me hope that you can move on and find someone that deserves you. I ended my affair only a couple of months ago so it is early days and my biggest worry is not going back down the same road and finding someone who doesn't have me on an emotional rollercoaster.

[Baby123]

Good luck! Thanks for posting- it's nice to get updated from ow on their journeys

[starryeyedsurprise]

Yes, letting go of the false dreams and hopes that we carry with unavailable partners. When you go move on, it's the best feeling in the world ;-)