lovelearner Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 While many would love to just have one great person to love them, I always end up having two, and to be honest it's one of the most difficult situations I got myself in. I have always been a very popular girl and this is not the first time I got into the situation where two guys are in love with me at the same time, last time was a similar situation and I was with one guy at the time and I loved him, then I met another guy and we never had sex or anything, we only got to talk and got to know each other and the connection was perfect, he felt like my soulmate and I felt like he was more suitable for me than my bf but I couldn't bear the thought of breaking up with him. It was crazy since I only talked to this guy like twice and we both felt like we were in love. Both guys were so in love with me and asked me to marry them, I didn't choose any since it was the hardest thing in the world to hurt any of them and I loved both. In the end of course I lost both and I knew I should have chosen one and just leave the other. Anyway back to my story now, which is similar. I have a bf now and he's really into me, he asked me to be his gf after 2 weeks and told me he really loves me after 1.5months,I'm sure to most people this is fast enough. I haven't said anything back because I want to be sure, but I definitely have a lot of feelings for him. He's great, really good guy, family person, handsome, successful, we have great chemistry and amazing sex. Lots of things I look for in a partner. Our relationship is developing and going well and he's clearly serious with me and in love with me. Then there's another guy I met long before him, and since he lives in another country we only chat online and never had anything physical, not even holding hands. We only met twice physically when he was traveling to my city. We've been talking for the last half a year and to start with it was only to practice my Swedish(he's Swedish and I lived in Sweden before)and we talked about our daily life etc like any friends would do. Then we both felt an amazing connection, like we know each other forever and we are families. I feel like I can just be myself with him, when I have a hard day or down he's the person I would turn to, he makes me feel like a better person and he feels the same way. So we talked like this for the past few months and neither of us went across the line, we called each other sister and brother even. To be honest I felt like I was falling in love with him from the beginning but since he showed no interest I moved on and then met my bf. So on the surface I have nothing with this guy beyond a friendship, but deep down I think I have a lot of feelings for him. Somehow last night he declared that he just realized he's in love with me and wants me to move to Sweden to be with him and no matter what it takes he wants to be with me. I told him I'm with someone else and this is confusing for me. He said he would wait for my decision. I'm totally confused and torn apart. I can't describe the connection I feel with this guy, it just feels so right and I may even be in love with him. But again I never had a real relationship with him, and he's got 2 kids from his previous marriage and I never wanted to be with someone with kids. I can also see a future with my bf and I'm not ready to just throw the relationship away for no reason. I really think I'm falling in love with my bf but the connection is not the same. Has anyone been in this situation? Please advise what I shall do, I don't want to make another mistake and lose two great guys again.
Lansing Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Sounds like the grass is greener for you, over and over again. The Internet guy sounds like a fantasy. It is easy to create the perfect guy out of a guy you have only met a few times. You aren't being fair to your bf by talking to this guy in this way. You ARE cheating on an emotional level in my books.
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