letsplaygofish2 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I need to get your honest opinion about this situation. Ex-bf is 38 years old, I am 36 years old. We dated for nearly 11 months and we lived together for 8 months of that time. Our relationship was really good, we don't fight, don't argue, always finishing each others sentences. It was amazing. The only problem was that he was unemployed and has low self-esteem. Throughout the course of the relationship, I tried to help him start his own business. Those opportunities did not work due to his self-esteem reasons and also caused the demise of our relationship. Because I was helping him so much, he thought I became overbearing - but in honesty, I wanted him to succeed... and he knows it. In October, he abruptly moved out which threw me in for a panic. We tried again, broke up and have several ups and downs and have been officially broken up since November. I invited him to join me in therapy this past Friday and he agreed to come. We had some unfinished business and had been talking. When he arrived at my house to drive to the therapists office, he told me about his new business ideas (thanks to what he learned from me) and also said he was super horny and thought about me several times today (mind you, this is the first time we've seen each other in a month). He said he doesn't want to lead me on, but he thinks about doing sexual things to me. I didn't say anything, except I was on my period. He then went on to say that he isn't dating anyone else, but he doesn't want to lead me on. In therapy, I realized that he was not happy with the way I've reacted to the breakup because I came off super needy, but I also don't think he realized that my reactions were due to his abrupt departure from the relationship when things were good. It killed me. After therapy, we talked for a while. He says he doesn't feel anything towards me right now, but what we had during our relationship was very real, that he truly loved me and could imagine having a family with me. But he was frustrated... and I was hurt that he left. We left the conversation on good terms, but did not decide on anything. It was really a conversation about airing our grievances and hurt... I haven't talked to him since Friday. I am going to go NC and leave it at that... honestly, I am still in love with him. Do you think there might be hope?
robbysurfs Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 This is my story I sound like your boyfriend at the time I am 37 she was 33 but she left me and even after I started working again it was to little to late but that was just one of the problems. The only thing I can say is we did the on and off thing for awhile before she went mia. We never really worked on why we had issues to begin with. It kinda got swept under the rug if its not broke dont try and fix it is what some say. That being said but you need to resolve your original issues or there cant be hope for a clean future. It takes 2 to dance you and your dance partner has got to want to dance with you even if sometimes the music is bad...
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