LoveShook Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 7 year relationship. I wasnt putting forth the effort anymore and she decides to end it. She started dating a guy right away. We stayed in contact off/on since. Shes been with new boyfriend for 10 months. Talked with her a couple of weeks ago when she contacted me. She tells me the holidays arent the same. I ask why and she says, its just not the same, hes not you. At a later date she tells me she isnt putting a tree up this year because she cant do it. Tells me she misses our Christmases. Just games? To be honest, part of me is still in love with her.
MoveAlong Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Sorry man, I feel your pain. Sounds like she is really confused, and is seeing someone because she wants some change. I don't know, but I feel like your conversations with her are hurting you. You may want to consider no contact. If only there were easy answers to these problems. 1
Author LoveShook Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Thanks for the response. I went no contact for a couple of months early on. Came back thinking we could be friends. Ive been friends with exes in the past before. But when she mentions things like this, I think it sparks something with me. Honestly, it feels good and gives me a lift hearing her say what she has. Especially during this time of the year when Im alone and need it. Im torn of rather to stop talking or continue and leave the door open.
Augustus64 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 "he's not you" is a powerful proclamation by her. She's definitely confused and on the fence about what would make her happiest. I'd say play it cool and don't put any pressure on her as it could spring her in the other direction. If she's going to come, let her come to you. She broke NC before and she'll do it again. Stay strong bro.
JDPT Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 She keeps you around on a leash, you are comfortable to her. You are no ones mop or puppet, the person who she should be venting to is her bf. 1
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 You say you weren't putting in the effort. So why do you care? Sounds like she dumped you, not because she fell out of love.
Author LoveShook Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 "he's not you" is a powerful proclamation by her. She's definitely confused and on the fence about what would make her happiest. I'd say play it cool and don't put any pressure on her as it could spring her in the other direction. If she's going to come, let her come to you. She broke NC before and she'll do it again. Stay strong bro. I wait for her to contact me first. She texted me Friday night but I havent responded. Im not sure whats going on with her. They have been living together this whole time. She keeps you around on a leash, you are comfortable to her. You are no ones mop or puppet, the person who she should be venting to is her bf. It may be to feed her ego. I dont know. I agree she should be sharing her feelings with him. I dont believe he knows she talking with me though. You say you weren't putting in the effort. So why do you care? Sounds like she dumped you, not because she fell out of love. I guess with what shes saying brings up residule feelings. I would like a friendship at some point but if she could meet me with that.
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