Author confusedandhurt2002 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 Not any of your concern why I do what I do. And no I didn't try to get on a Jerry springer show. I did contact oprah about something at one point but it had more to do with the religious abuse. I am nowhere around them and haven't been - if they are concerned about the affair starting back up again they are looking in the wrong place. Why are you interested in what I do or what I don't do? It isn't anyone's concern what you do or why you do it but you did comment in a public forum so people are commenting back and you didn't have to answer....This thread got really weird and fast.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 (edited) The point is, I was responding with my own experiences on this topic and what was happening with me as an example - that it can be the flip - that's all and I got a lecture on it. I guess the point of it all is, if you want people not to see anything, don't post on social media, don't be on the internet, etc. Also, this brings up a really good point that breakups were most likely easier to get over 20 years ago without all of the internet information that is out there. It can be addicting - there are actually studies that talk about the adrenalin rush the brain gets while it's "googling" or when you are checking for email, etc. Even though there are good things the internet provides, this is probably one of the worst. It would be much easier for everyone to be in NC without the ease of searching for the person online. Carry on. Edited December 10, 2013 by lilmisscantbewrong
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 That's just your opinion and I would think an opinion of a small minority who even care or are concerned about such things. Most professionals on LinkedIn are probably busy trying to make money (or achieve whatever their professional goals may be), moreso than worrying whether so and so from 3 years ago is looking at their profile. ************ edited - when you get PM privileges PM me
NitroJones Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Yes, I am guilty of checking the OW facebook page that's how I was able to find out about the child that my husband hid for the last 2 years. Also while I googled her name I came across a blog that scorned WS had written about her apparently this isn't her first time breaking up a happy home, WS wrote out the OW entire name in her blog and didn't care said she was a home wrecker. I am so not surprised she seems to be a very unhappy woman.
Arieswoman Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I joined FB about 2 years ago and was having a look around for people I knew and came across the OW's page. She has left her privacy settings wide open, so I can read the lot. It seems Karma has not only paid her and my exWS a visit, he/she seems to have taken up residence in their home! They got married when she got pregnant and the baby was stillborn, the next one was a cot-death. I already knew via the grapevine that she has been hospitalised at least twice for depression and their kids have had health issues. They went to the USA for a holiday to celebrate a wedding anniversary and her mother died while they were away. They bought a property in Spain and rented it out and the tenants trashed it and stole anything that wasn't nailed down. Then the bottom dropped out of the market and it's now worth zilch. They moved house and lost £10,000s on the deal. She's just been made redundant. Their holiday snaps (and most other photos) all show him unsmiling and looking like he didn't want to be there. There are repeated postings from her about the fact she is still grieving over her dead mother and dead children. It seems she paid a very heavy price for getting involved with a MM. When my exWS finally left, he said that one of the reasons he didn't want to try and repair the marriage was that "it's easier for me to start again with X, than try and fix the problems with you". I think Karma has fixed then good and proper. "What goes around, comes around" as they say. 1
Raena Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I joined FB about 2 years ago and was having a look around for people I knew and came across the OW's page. She has left her privacy settings wide open, so I can read the lot. It seems Karma has not only paid her and my exWS a visit, he/she seems to have taken up residence in their home! They got married when she got pregnant and the baby was stillborn, the next one was a cot-death. I already knew via the grapevine that she has been hospitalised at least twice for depression and their kids have had health issues. They went to the USA for a holiday to celebrate a wedding anniversary and her mother died while they were away. They bought a property in Spain and rented it out and the tenants trashed it and stole anything that wasn't nailed down. Then the bottom dropped out of the market and it's now worth zilch. They moved house and lost £10,000s on the deal. She's just been made redundant. Their holiday snaps (and most other photos) all show him unsmiling and looking like he didn't want to be there. There are repeated postings from her about the fact she is still grieving over her dead mother and dead children. It seems she paid a very heavy price for getting involved with a MM. When my exWS finally left, he said that one of the reasons he didn't want to try and repair the marriage was that "it's easier for me to start again with X, than try and fix the problems with you". I think Karma has fixed then good and proper. "What goes around, comes around" as they say. Holy cow, that's an awful lot of Karma biting right there.
Raena Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Except with Facebook you have the option to block someone, same with Twitter and Google - they can't just view you anonymously. There are many of us professionals (and yes I am a professional) that think it's "unprofessional" to be able to view others anonymously and there are quite a few threads on it. It will be addressed in the near future. There isn't any place for it on LinkedIn. Just as an FYI, yes you can view a twitter page anonymously. You don't even have to have a twitter account to see what someone has posted. Unless of course they protect their tweets, and most people don't do that. The same with facebook, if their setting are all public, you can look all you want and they will never know you looked. Not so sure about Google.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Just as an FYI, yes you can view a twitter page anonymously. You don't even have to have a twitter account to see what someone has posted. Unless of course they protect their tweets, and most people don't do that. The same with facebook, if their setting are all public, you can look all you want and they will never know you looked. Not so sure about Google. Yes I know that - this is why if you have them they should be protected if you don't want anyone to see them. My point was at linkedin it actually says "a linkedin member viewed your profile" and it is totally anonymous - they are private - you can't tell who it is. Most people (because It is a professional site) don't have that restriction because it is a business networking site. That type of anonymous viewing has no place there. But you do know that if you are constantly viewing a persons page the individual can tell because you tend to show up on their page as someone they should know, etc. Facebook denies this is true, but google it - you will see some consistencies in why it really is true - I don't like any of it.
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