orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Not sure if she wants to be friends or more give me your input. This girl that works with my brother in law asked me to go fishing with her we went fishing that night until 4 in the morning. I text her on the fowling tuesday and she didn't reply she said she was at a concert and she text me the next afternoon. She told my brother in law she wasn't sure if she liked me like that. He maybe making it up I'm not sure. On that tuesday when we were texting I asked if she wanted to go fishing again the next weekend she said sure why not. I gave it a break and didn't text her until thanksgiving and just asked how her day was she said good I said thats good and was going to leave it at that. She text me back and said that she was excited for saturday. The next day she text me and told me that I should come in and eat at her work because she was bored. I went in and we hung out for a little. The next day we went fishing until late again we stopped at the store before fishing and she picked up this little kid tux and told me I would look cute in it. When I dropped her off after fishing she asked me for a hug and I gave her one and she told me to text me when I got in the car. I text her later that week and asked if she wanted to go bowling on friday she said she didn't have the money I told her I would pay and she said ok. She got sick so I took her meds and she said that no one has ever done something like that for her before. She text me later that night and asked what were the plans for friday I told her I would pick her up at 10 she said sounds good I'm excited. She didn't get any better and we didn't go. she felt bad but I told her Id rather her feel better for her game on sunday than go and feel like crap she said Aww thanks. I went in to eat at her work yesterday and she needed something for the game today she couldn't get off work to get it so I went looking for it for her she said I was amazing. when I showed up to her work to eat with my family she told my mom she couldn't believe that I would do that for her and said why can all guys be like that. Her friend then pulled me aside and asked if I had the hots for her friend I said yes she told me I need to tell her so she don't get the impression that I want to just be her friend. Does she like me or just want to be friends? She also told me she was excited for the spring so me and her could go fishing when Its warm and she also will text me if I don't text her first. last night she could not sleep because she was excited and i replied and she asked So why are you still awake I told her I was watching a movie all by myself she kept the convo going by asking what movie and then wold me what she was watching without me even having to ask. Im not sure what to think but I really like her a lot and we have a lot in common.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Does she have to write it on your forehead man?
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Yes she would Im very bad at taking signs.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 She is obviously into you. Warmer weather, less clothes. Texting you late at night. You just need to kiss her next time you go out 1
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Im really shy i think thats why Im bad at taking signs and I over think stuff to much. She text me last night at 12 to thank me again for looking for the stuff she needed and she would ask like so why are you still awake and asked what I was watching and told me what she was watching and said she wanted to go to Alaska to gold hunt and said lets go.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Here is something that makes me think she's interested it's been snowing all day she was a few hours away and had to drive home in it she text me as soon as she got home without me asking her to. I don't text my friends to let them know I'm home ok. What do you think?
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 I know. I'm talking to her right now she always text me until late which I also Think is a good thing.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Anyone else have any input?
mortensorchid Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I always like telling this story. Years ago, I had a male friend who told me that last weekend he went out with this girl who he really liked. I said "That's nice." He said everytime he would call her, she would hang up the phone; and, everything he would see her in a public place, she would run the other way. He asked me what I thought that meant. I said to him "(Name), you really don't need ME to tell you what that means, do you?" Well, the opposite is going on in your situation. Go for it!
Author orioles1744 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 So your saying I should tell her how I feel and I have a pretty good shot?
tlegend Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 So your saying I should tell her how I feel and I have a pretty good shot? 1) She likes you 2) She is complimenting your behavior. She obviously finds you and your personality attractive. She has said so to you directly. 3) Her friends told you that you need to tell her you want more than a friendship with her. You should probably do that if thats what you want. 4) If you can't sit down for 10 seconds and truely realize this is how women show you they want more, then you are going to have a hard time trying to read between the lines. Compare her actions with other girls that are NOT interested in you. Can you tell the difference? Good luck!!
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 1) She likes you 2) She is complimenting your behavior. She obviously finds you and your personality attractive. She has said so to you directly. 3) Her friends told you that you need to tell her you want more than a friendship with her. You should probably do that if thats what you want. 4) If you can't sit down for 10 seconds and truely realize this is how women show you they want more, then you are going to have a hard time trying to read between the lines. Compare her actions with other girls that are NOT interested in you. Can you tell the difference? Good luck!! Thanks man I guess your right. My brother in law is the reason I think this way he tells me I have a slim chance because Im not her type she's into tall guys.
tlegend Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Thanks man I guess your right. My brother in law is the reason I think this way he tells me I have a slim chance because Im not her type she's into tall guys. Tell your brother to go ....do something else, and tell this girl how you feel already.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 could I be like hey did your friend tell you she trapped me between the doors at the shop and asked if I had a thing for you and see what she says?
tlegend Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 could I be like hey did your friend tell you she trapped me between the doors at the shop and asked if I had a thing for you and see what she says? Or you could just ...ask her out on a date and let her know you are into her more than just a friend.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 You say you are shy. I agree it might be a little weird trying to work hey I like you more than a friend into the conversation. How about holding her hand or putting your arm around her on your next date. This will show her that you like her more than just a friend.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 We are suppose to go bowling when she comes home she was upset that the could not go because she was sick.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 So last night when we were texting I told her about what her friend did this is how it went. Hey did .... tell you that the locked me in the room and asked me about you Her- Um Why? Me- Idk she asked if I had a thing for you. Her- Oh I swear Me- Im surprised she didn't tell you what I said. Her- She started to. Me- What did she tell you. Her- Idk I'm confused Me- What are yo confused about? Her- Idk lol the whole thing. I think she knows I have a thing for her now but what does she mean my she's confused? Does this mean she's not interested? what should I reply to the last message she sent it about an hour ago.
tlegend Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 So last night when we were texting I told her about what her friend did this is how it went. Hey did .... tell you that the locked me in the room and asked me about you Her- Um Why? Me- Idk she asked if I had a thing for you. Her- Oh I swear Me- Im surprised she didn't tell you what I said. Her- She started to. Me- What did she tell you. Her- Idk I'm confused Me- What are yo confused about? Her- Idk lol the whole thing. I think she knows I have a thing for her now but what does she mean my she's confused? Does this mean she's not interested? what should I reply to the last message she sent it about an hour ago. "Well, she asked me if I had a thing for you and I said yes"
ShyGuy5 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 So last night when we were texting I told her about what her friend did this is how it went. Hey did .... tell you that the locked me in the room and asked me about you Her- Um Why? Me- Idk she asked if I had a thing for you. Her- Oh I swear Me- Im surprised she didn't tell you what I said. Her- She started to. Me- What did she tell you. Her- Idk I'm confused Me- What are yo confused about? Her- Idk lol the whole thing. I think she knows I have a thing for her now but what does she mean my she's confused? Does this mean she's not interested? what should I reply to the last message she sent it about an hour ago. You just put your foot in your mouth dude. I don't think you could have made it any more awkward. 1
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 I said I was bad at this did I screw it up? She is still talking to me.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 I didn't reply and she text me and asked me if I was feeling any better cue ive been sick. I guess its a good thing if she's still talking to me.
Mr.Mango Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I'm with ShyGuy on this, you made something very cut and dry, very awkward. Why didn't just text her something like: "Hey, next time I see you, could I take you out to [insert date idea here]?" Worst case scenario is that she says no and you guys are friends, which at this point is nothing lost. Now it's weird, and you're having a hard time responding to her texts. If you can't get to the point with her, things will only progressively get more and more awkward, where your friendship might get taxed. By the way, she probably said she was confused because she wanted you to make the first move.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 I'm with ShyGuy on this, you made something very cut and dry, very awkward. Why didn't just text her something like: "Hey, next time I see you, could I take you out to [insert date idea here]?" Worst case scenario is that she says no and you guys are friends, which at this point is nothing lost. Now it's weird, and you're having a hard time responding to her texts. If you can't get to the point with her, things will only progressively get more and more awkward, where your friendship might get taxed. By the way, she probably said she was confused because she wanted you to make the first move. So your saying she wanted me to say myself that I had a thing for her? Were texting fine now. Should I just come out and say I have a thing for you or just let it go for now?
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