NitroJones Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Well I found out that my husband had an affair with the possibility of fathering a child that he hid from me he claims he not sure if the child is his but he remained in contact with the OW after she moved away and had her child. She says the child is my H but she had a live in BF during their affair which makes my husband question if the child is really his. I told him I would never want to keep a child away from their father however the child's mother refuses to get a paternity test but calls our home and say that the child want to talk to him. I asked her not to contact us until she is ready to paternity test done. This is making me crazy because I informed my H if the child really is his I would not be able to remain in the marriage. I think he wants to know however I know he isn't going to follow through with testing because I said I would leave. I feel guilty and I don't know why?
HokeyReligions Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I don't know why you feel guilty either. What difference does it make if the baby is your husbands? He cheated on you. Dump him. Better her having his kid than you having her disease - or his next whores disease... 1
Author NitroJones Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 I guess I feel guilty because the child is just as innocent as me. IDK we have children together and they want no part of knowing the child they are old enough to know what has happened 17 and 15 and honestly I still love my H
SerCay Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I guess I feel guilty because the child is just as innocent as me. IDK we have children together and they want no part of knowing the child they are old enough to know what has happened 17 and 15 and honestly I still love my H I understand...so now it's time for him to show how much he loves you. He has to take the steps you need him to take to feel secure. If the child is his and you leave, it's his responsibility to win you back by showing you his remorse and love. Ps. I don't understand why he has been in contact with the OW all along...I mean for what? The woman doesnt want a paternity test, so why would your husband keep talking to her? Sorry red flag of a ''have my cake and eat it too'' situation. 3
Author NitroJones Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 I totally agree about the red flag apparently before she moved he visited her and seen the child, he said he slept with her more than once so there is a probability the child could be his. Now, what I believe is that he took responsibility even though he may have a slight bit of doubt and he excepted the child as his now that I have found out he is saying something different. I told him undoubtedly that if the child is his I am out. I just want the truth am I wrong for wanting to know?
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