Mantha03 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 (edited) I'm just going to jump right into it. I have known my best friend for 12 years and we have always had a great friendship and shared a lot of our personal life with each other previous to dating. Well, about four months ago we admitted to our affection for one another. After him asking me to be in a relationship several times I finally agreed. We used to go out every weekend before dating and now he never invites me. He goes out with the guys without telling me but will tell me the next day. So I will be left hanging all night and it is very frustrating. I got really upset twice and he apologized and promised to work on it. Knowing him for so long I know he has not been in a committed relationship, has no children or any reason to have to calm down. He is horrible with communicating and does not seem to understand my frustrations when he goes out without letting me know. He says " it never bothered you before why are you mad?" Yeah, it didn't bother me because we were just friends. Ever since I confronted him it seems like he lies even more, like he's afraid that I'm going to get upset. He will go out and lie to me about what they did and where they went. Well, we have al lot of mutual friends so it always comes out via online networking or when we are all hanging out. It doesn't bother me if he wants to go out, I just would like to know. I go out with my ladies too and come back to him at the end of the night. Granted he contacts me after they've gone out most times to come cuddle with me it still hurts wondering where he is. I keep in touch with him and answer him when I am out but he won't do the same for me. During the week we see each other almost everyday, we hang out watch movies cuddle, go hiking, go to church normal couple things. Yet, every other weekend he pulls this and I've asked him about it when I catch him lying. For example Friday night him and our other friend invited me to go over and said he would call me when they got there. Well, no call but I was kind of glad because I was tired. He called me about one in the morning asking me to come for him so I did. I asked him what they did he said they went to a friends and drank a bit I left it at that. Well we spent the rest of the weekend together sledding, movies, dinner etc.. Today I went online to check out the videos on our friends vine page from sledding and I came across a video of my bf, our friend and two girls at our friends house. My bf was on the other side of the room and in the video nothing happened. I asked him why he lied and if anything happened. Because of the occurrences I have lost some trust for him. One time I thought I saw something on a text saying "hey love.." I got mad asked and he showed me it, I have bad eyesight and I was mistaken and felt bad. Now because I ask him about these things or confront him he is mad and says he is tired of defending himself and he does not understand why I think there is something else going on. I don't feel like I am in the wrong. He now feels like I am spying on him, but when I go online I see things people post up in my news feed. I really care for him and he is great to me most of the time but when he is out with his buddies he is very inconsiderate and tends to lie to me. I don't feel like he has cheated but I don't understand why he lies to me. Edited December 9, 2013 by Mantha03 Error
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