Dumped85 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I feel like time isn't doing me any favours, im lonlier than I ever have been, filled with regret. Im useless to my family, im a depressed wreck all the while why the ex is living the life she had before me. Her life is full filled with friends, she's more outgoing than me so will get a new partner sooner, while im stuck stuck in the past, in a present time of no hope of ever finding someone again. I hate that it didn't work out, hate myself for not questioning things and her for not doing the same.
TrappedWanderer Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I feel you, dumped85. I think he took the easy way out and it's maddening and very painful to think I put so much into this while he, seemingly, lied about much so it was fairly wasy for him to "be over it" and ease right back into his old life, while I'm left picking up the pieces. Been a rough day today, with those kind of thoughts, but I keep telling myself that karma is a b$^ch and, ultimately, he'll be the miserable one in the run. I know I handled the relationship with integrity and honesty and love-and I'm very much trying to remember that. Hard not to feel resentful knowing he didn't return the same courtesy though. Just remember, tomorrow is another day. One step forward, two steps back....at least it's movement. Hang tough! 1
JDPT Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Why do you worry so much about what she is up to or how she is coping? She is no longer part of your life. Her life doesn't revolve around yourse and vice versa. Focus on you and what you will like to do to start healing. 2
Author Dumped85 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 I really don't know why, considering we are strangers again. I just had a bit of a breakdown today. Spoke to a telephone councilor to settle myself down because at one point I Felt like running in front of a car.
Author Dumped85 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 And another reason I feel I didn't give her my all, and thats what pushed her away.
Peanut9330 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I feel like time isn't doing me any favours, im lonlier than I ever have been, filled with regret. Im useless to my family, im a depressed wreck all the while why the ex is living the life she had before me. Her life is full filled with friends, she's more outgoing than me so will get a new partner sooner, while im stuck stuck in the past, in a present time of no hope of ever finding someone again. I hate that it didn't work out, hate myself for not questioning things and her for not doing the same. This is just a temporary feeling and even though you don't feel it at this moment time is your best friend after a break up. The more time that passes the easier it gets. I remember how I felt I obsessed over every little detail in the beginning, then slowly took control of my life and started moving forward one step at a time. It was a process and I did lose my footing at times but eventually I made it and you will too!!!!! Don't beat yourself up about what you might have done wrong because a relationship takes two people to work. If you were doing something that was hurting her she should have addressed it to you and you both could have worked on it, communication is key to a successful relationship.
ponchsox Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I feel like time isn't doing me any favours, im lonlier than I ever have been, filled with regret. Im useless to my family, im a depressed wreck all the while why the ex is living the life she had before me. Her life is full filled with friends, she's more outgoing than me so will get a new partner sooner, while im stuck stuck in the past, in a present time of no hope of ever finding someone again. I hate that it didn't work out, hate myself for not questioning things and her for not doing the same. And you should be living the life you had before you dated your ex. Who cares what she is doing. Focus on keeping YOU happy. 1
mea_M Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Honestly, I'd just forget about what she's doing. Who cares? Get out there, dust yourself off and take a deep breath and say I'm awesome! keep it positive. You can do it!!!! Ok? Mea 1
Author Dumped85 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 And you should be living the life you had before you dated your ex. Who cares what she is doing. Focus on keeping YOU happy. The worst part is that I wasn't doing much better before her, always been a bit of a loner. She filled a big gap in my life.
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