rweb7 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I have been dating this girl for 1 1/2 months now, she's 18 and i'm 19. But we haven't seen each other in 3 weeks so far. She has been busy with exams and family stuff, with being sick with the flu this week. But I am getting really annoyed/frustrated because I like her a lot, and I can't seem to see her in person. After 3 weeks I called her, and asked what was going on, where our relationship is going, etc. I then asked her if she was romantically interested in me and she quickly said yes. I asked her if she was even wanting to see me at all because of the huge no-see gap, and she said she does, but December is usually a busy month, and said after December she'll be free. I asked if next week would be better, but she has baby****ting, yoga, and some bake sale with her family so she can't. She said she wasn't sure if she'd be able to date this month. I just don't believe she THAT busy, you know?.. I'm quite annoyed/frustrated right now. But i can understand if she's busy. But as i always say: "if you really like a person, whether you're busy, you'll always find time to see them." which i take to heart. We agreed to see each other a few times this month, for a movie, walk, or whatever. She also texts me everyday so I would assume she's interested in me.. She said we can Skype, but it's not the same. So i'm thinking, since it's almost mid December, to see her a few times, skype, etc. then get serious January. What do you think? Should i leave her? or even keep her, and date other people? I'm so confused.. we really connect, i don't know what's really going on with her. Pardon my poor grammer, i've had a rough day! Thanks.
Dallers Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) I have been dating this girl for 1 1/2 months now, she's 18 and i'm 19. But we haven't seen each other in 3 weeks so far. She has been busy with exams and family stuff, with being sick with the flu this week. But I am getting really annoyed/frustrated because I like her a lot, and I can't seem to see her in person. After 3 weeks I called her, and asked what was going on, where our relationship is going, etc. I then asked her if she was romantically interested in me and she quickly said yes. I asked her if she was even wanting to see me at all because of the huge no-see gap, and she said she does, but December is usually a busy month, and said after December she'll be free. I asked if next week would be better, but she has baby****ting, yoga, and some bake sale with her family so she can't. She said she wasn't sure if she'd be able to date this month. I just don't believe she THAT busy, you know?.. I'm quite annoyed/frustrated right now. But i can understand if she's busy. But as i always say: "if you really like a person, whether you're busy, you'll always find time to see them." which i take to heart. We agreed to see each other a few times this month, for a movie, walk, or whatever. She also texts me everyday so I would assume she's interested in me.. She said we can Skype, but it's not the same. So i'm thinking, since it's almost mid December, to see her a few times, skype, etc. then get serious January. What do you think? Should i leave her? or even keep her, and date other people? I'm so confused.. we really connect, i don't know what's really going on with her. Pardon my poor grammer, i've had a rough day! Thanks. Ok firstly. Walk away now. She is a player/user and wasting your brain time. You are an object to her, a little extra on the side that makes her feel wanted. A 5kg bar of chocolate that you open from time to time to take a chunk then hide it back in the cupboard. Nobody that is interested in someone romantically can go an hour let alone 3 weeks without thinking about said person who is in their head non stop and there is a not a day that goes past that said person would not be able to hear from you. I hear from ex girlfriends every couple of weeks for general chit chat let alone a girl I like! Break contact completely, if she likes you then you will hear from her. I am 99% sure you won't. Scrub that one from the brain matter. Edited December 8, 2013 by Dallers
Author rweb7 Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 Ok firstly. Walk away now. She is a player/user and wasting your brain time. You are an object to her, a little extra on the side that makes her feel wanted. A 5kg bar of chocolate that you open from time to time to take a chunk then hide it back in the cupboard. Nobody that is interested in someone romantically can go an hour let alone 3 weeks without thinking about said person who is in their head non stop and there is a not a day that goes past that said person would not be able to hear from you. I hear from ex girlfriends every couple of weeks for general chit chat let alone a girl I like! Break contact completely, if she likes you then you will hear from her. I am 99% sure you won't. Scrub that one from the brain matter. That's what i've been thinking. I just texted her saying not seeing me for 2 months isn't gonna happen, and she'll have to see me soon. I think i might move on.. it's a shame, we get together so well!.. Thanks 1
Dallers Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 That's what i've been thinking. I just texted her saying not seeing me for 2 months isn't gonna happen, and she'll have to see me soon. I think i might move on.. it's a shame, we get together so well!.. Thanks Best way to go about it. Although the text wasn't necessary remember that by confirming something you remove that connection you have and it shows her that it has affected you. Should the same instance occur in the future just go quiet, and sometimes you will hear back from them if they actually did like you and realise it after you have vanished
Author rweb7 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Best way to go about it. Although the text wasn't necessary remember that by confirming something you remove that connection you have and it shows her that it has affected you. Should the same instance occur in the future just go quiet, and sometimes you will hear back from them if they actually did like you and realise it after you have vanished She just texted me 30 mins ago, saying she doesn't have the time this month, but she'll try and get together with me a few times. She is going to Hawaii. Dec 17 i believe she said.. she said her not seeing me for a month, isnt because she doesnt like me, but she is busy this month and also "bad timing". Whatcha think now? wait for her, go out a couple times, skype, etc. or should i still abandon ship?
Dallers Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 She just texted me 30 mins ago, saying she doesn't have the time this month, but she'll try and get together with me a few times. She is going to Hawaii. Dec 17 i believe she said.. she said her not seeing me for a month, isnt because she doesnt like me, but she is busy this month and also "bad timing". Whatcha think now? wait for her, go out a couple times, skype, etc. or should i still abandon ship? You just said to her what the situation was an hour ago. It was over there and then and if you had not sent the text she would not have replied. So nothing should have changed in your mind. Your decision was made. The ball is now back in your court, stick to your guns and forget her. If she really does like you then when she is free you will hear from her. You always want to be chased in a situation like this, never the chaser. If you text back again, you will always be the chaser.
MrMeh Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I have heard the typical 'I don't have time" excuse. Realistically, she just didn't want to make time for me. I think it's common sense,especially at that age, that the other person would make time for you if they really enjoyed your company.
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