JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 2 months already past, why is it still hurting me so bad. I just broke no contact earlier and got no reply My life is just a mess.. I lost my job too.. financial problems coming. What do I do? progress is just all gone. She is having fun going to parties, smiling while I'm suffering to death..
JDPT Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 At two months, honestly you are just scratching the surface of your recovery journey. Be gentle on yourself, no need to rush the process. Start by internalizing that the relationship is now over and shift the focus on to you. You are all that matters from this point forward, this is survival. Implement NC immediately and start detaching yourself fully from this past and remember not to wish for a different or better past. Come to terms and find closure on your own. We are all on the same boat, hang in there.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 I wanted to tell her that "I want her back and lets work it out" God why Am I hurting like this.. Such unfair life
yorkie Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 johnny i was like you to mate 2 nhalf months i cried i begged and i wanted her back. i feel your pain as its raw for all of us on here but make yourself ignore her we need to be strong. you need to leave her alone and concentrate on yourself because otherwise she will think she made the right choice! im telling you now if you dont go NC and stick to it you will never ever have a chance to win her back its true you need to show her that she means nothing to you now and i bet 4/5 months time even if she was with someone else she will realise her mistake and if she doesnt then as harsh and as sH@tty as it sounds you need to move on. i been where you are exactly the same 1
ponchsox Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 What helped me get through my breakup was leaning on God. He never lets us down. 2
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 What makes it so bad is I broke no contact.. I've been very strong the last 2 months.. Even she's messaging me I'm ignoring her.. But why suddenly I broke it without thinking.. God im such a mess..
LostConfused123 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 What makes it so bad is I broke no contact.. I've been very strong the last 2 months.. Even she's messaging me I'm ignoring her.. But why suddenly I broke it without thinking.. God im such a mess.. I broke NC once after about 7 weeks (not this current heartbreak) All I said was I hope he was doing well and being happy............No reply! I felt like an absolute idiot. But it passed. You went a whole 2 months (NOT EASY!!) Believe me, it will feel like you're back at day one for a while but it will pass less painfully this time. At least that was the case with me. I'm so sorry you feel so crappy. But be nice to yourself!!! You are experiencing one of the most painful things we as humans go through. No way around it and it's not fair and just plain sucks but we are here for you!! ((hugs!!))
amtz Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Brother check out my stories they are well documented I have survived TWO harsh breakups do to determination, "you must move on" way of thinking, and LS... I don't know why, but NC has always been the way to go to heal which is your top priority and if you ever intend to get them back this is the solution as well. Don't get your hopes high either! By the time they end up coming back you are way over them period! 3 years ago I had the most perfect relationship out of the blue prior to christmas she called it off! And yes I got fired to! I was wrecked cried all day talked about it with everyone, couldn't sleep I was devastated just wanted to die period... Till I started to notice that there is life, that the sun was shinning, my feelings went back to normal and best of all I had no rush to leave this planet... There was more I had to do before being departing this life!! After 9 or 10 month guess who came back crying like crazy? The EX! Did i care? Hell no I was a single man I could of taken her as a booty call but I just wasn't interested anymore. She kept begging and crying for over 3 months and the only feeling she took from me was that I felt bad for her... Main point all my crying and worthless feeling of my self had a purpose. TO HEAL and become someone better! Life will give you a chance to encounter with your ex trust me.. Only when your mind is grounded and settled you get your shot!! It will depend to you rather to be with her or not, but you will be in calm mind set to make the best choice.... FOR YOU and no one else! 1
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