shorty1988m Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Well i apologise if this is long but would appreciate if you could read it and give me some advice. Just so you know before i start i work on a yacht which is why this isn't such a straight forward one. Ok so i met this girl in June this year when i returned from holidays and found she was working where i work. She was young, tall, beautiful and really fun. We hit it off immediately and i was stunned by her. I normally don't date co workers but after a few weeks i was giddy like a school kid. Eventually things escalated and we kissed and started getting closer. I was in heaven. As work on board started becoming more hectic we had less and less chances to spend time together but we did really try and stolen half hours here and there made me happy. This is where it goes wrong. She slept with someone else. A guest on board who used to stay up late. I found out when i went to use her phone for the internet and an email from him popped up. I never said anything but i was heartbroken. I didn't say anything but stayed away from her but like i said before in such a small environment on a boat you can't keep away. I hardened my heart and decided to still keep going with her because i liked her and i rationalised it by saying we weren't exclusive and she did nothing wrong. Stupid i know. For the next few months we had ups and downs. When we were together it was amazing. She was a really guarded person but eventually she let her defences down and let me in. She told me she loved me. I still hadn't told her i knew and it made me insecure but i said i loved her back. We had some rocky patches because we never handled it well when we weren't together.We stopped talking at times but always came back and it was always the same as before. We both said and did things to hurt the other. I found another email from the guy she slept with and i let her knew i knew. She denied it but i had read the convos and she gave in. Within a few days i was stupidly back with her and we never talked about it Eventually this month we both left the job. We ended up back in our hometowns (5 hour drive apart) but we were determined to see each other. She visited my home, met my parents and stayed for a week and my birthday. She cried one night about how it was a mistake to hook up with that guy and that i'm the only person she loved. I was happy but we still hadn't said what we were doing and the more i pushed it the more i pushed her away. She left for home and i found out she was going back to europe to look for another job. If she got one i'd probably never see her again. We argued a bit and she ignored me and i was insecure and eventually we just agreed not to speak to each other. I contacted her to say goodbye and she refused to reply so i got angry and eventually she said goodbye and i was happy that i could now move one. Anyways. One day later i get a message saying i am the love of her life and how she was sorry and she will always love me. She also said it takes her making a mistake to realise how much i mean to her. Because of my insecurities over this chick i immediately jumped to the conclusion she'd hooked up with someone else and i was a bit gutted but we started some dialogue and got to a point where we wanted to stay in touch and see each other if we could. I agreed and we added each other on facebook. 5 minutes later i seen a check in on her facebook with reference to her being in someones bed. A guys bed. I deleted her and told her i can't do it because i can't see that. She said i was overreacting and that it was a 'facebook r*pe'. I said i can't even look at other girls yet so to read stuff like that i just can't do it. She said she can see why i said that and maybes in a few months we can talk. That was a few hours ago and now i feel really bad and can't stop thinking about her. I want to send her a message saying look i do want to talk and stay in touch. Especially because of where we worked i will never see her again if i don't stay in touch and she really is my best friend. I'm really confused about all this and just want to know some of you guys advice on this. What would you do? Will i ever stop thinking about her?
momo81 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Can you ring her? Tell her you want to stay in touch, if she is not receptive, then there is your answer. But try and ring her if you can. Just don't let her keep dicking you about.
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