confusedandhurt2002 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Our marriage counselor seems to attack my husband and I in our sessions. One or the other of us is in her targets every other week. One week it's me and the next it is him. she's argumentative (she argued with my husband over something during our last session for a good 5 minutes, even when I kept saying I was not upset any longer by this particular issue) and makes you feel like you are being interogated. It's not helping me, the betrayed spouse, or him, the unfaithful spouse. We are in a very rural area and finding a counselor is extremely hard. We went to this one because she's down the street, a friend recommended her (but later said her husband can't stand the woman), and the other counselors in the area are either seeing my huband or I or our son individually. Seriously...this area sucks in many ways. My question is...does anyone know of a good online counseling service or course that might help? I've looked at affairrecovery.com but don't know if it is a scam or not. Any ideas would be appreciated. thanks.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 ya ditch that loser counselor. counselors are supposed to create a therapeutic relationship between them and their clients. they are NEVER supposed to be argumentative. shes going to ruin what you have left. maybe Mort Fertel. not sure. I don't recommend online services. maybe a book: Counseling Corner: Top 12 Books for Troubled Marriages »
Cinnimon Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 There is a web-sight called 7cupsoftea that is made up of a variety of counselors from various backgrounds and specialties. I'm not sure this is what you are looking for but they might be able to advise you in your search for a counselor. Good luck.
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I think that it would be best to interview a new counselor. Seeing someone face to face allows the counselor to read body language and facial expressions that can't be seen online. I, once, went to a couples counselor who also attacked me personally. I had no history for her and her first question was, "Now let's talk about this neediness problem you have..." WTF?! Anyway, best of luck!
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