Why she behaves so strange?

[dare4u]

Hi,I met one woman.she is 21 and me 27.we met rgularly and enjoyed our company..I meet usually her on weekand or on weekdays.We chat ,talk and meet ,some time go for party.I told her that i like her ,your eyes looks better ,you are important for me when i was drunk.she knows all this what i told.I was shy to kiss her every time i met her.But finally did.Then after a week we slept.All was goint perfect.She started her study and i moved 400km far.but we chat and talk sometime on phone. I also visited her and we went out and had nice time.

 

She tells me everything about her dreams,family ,friends but i never met her friends or family member since we know each other about 6 months.As i am 400 km apart,i sent her letters how she is doing and i miss her.but she dont write it.she tells its sweet and romantic. I also sended her flowers to her house and she was happy for that. ALso i sent her cards and sometime writes my feeling.

 

 

We went on trip for 3 days and she liked a lot and she enjoyed it.After that trip she wrote me letter that thanks for this trip. .She writes that sometime my behaviour is strange or not good but i am happy to know you and after talk with you i fee feels mentally better ,strong and she tells you are almost one who calms me and make me believe that i can do it and wanted to see me happy.When i met her i brought ROSE for her and gave her and she told thanks and like it and gave me hug and kissed me.

 

She writes you are also important for me and always ready or help to give a piece of advice..I really in love of her.i think so she loves me but sometime i think no . i sent her cards and sometime writes my feeling that how much she means to me.Also i wrote about our time we spend.She liked it and when i visited her i saw she putted all these cards on WALL.We slept many times.

 

Before a week all,was going fine and she told me to visit her as i was in stress due to job.I told i will let you know tommorrow and next day she told no dont visit her bec she go appoinments and plans.THen i told okay then on weekdays she told sorry.I said okay write me when u have time.I told her i have send surprise gift for chritmas.AND she wrote''WHY?i dont need any presents pls.I thought its christmas i should give something which i thought she will like it.I told sorry later.

 

SHE WROTE''Its nice to spend time together but we cant be a couple or else ,i cant tell u this on face to face''.I was shocked and hurted because i thought she loves me too .And i told her forgive me what about present i sended to her and i cancel that parcel.

 

Since this friday we dont know because i already sended her meassge sorry for this..I dont write her since friday and waiting for reply.

 

I dont understand why she behaves so strange.All she wrote me was just on paper. don't she loves me ? WHY we cant be couple or else ?i dont understand this..please give me ur suggestion what to do now.

 

 

Thanks

[dare4u]

Hello ,It would be great if anyone give me suggestions .It would help me a lot. Thanks in advance and your time to read it.

[Sappa]

You're not going to know what's going through her head unless you question it. That's a fairly strong statement and from what you feel, you have every right to ask her. There are just too many possibilities here and long distance relationships hit people differently.

[Vogeltron]

Gotta be honest. Based on your English and using the metric system. I don't think I fully understand. I don't think I can help. I am much better dealing with American Women than foreign ones. If you could elaborate more it might be helpful.

[WrinkledForehead]

Gotta be honest. Based on your English and using the metric system. I don't think I fully understand. I don't think I can help. I am much better dealing with American Women than foreign ones. If you could elaborate more it might be helpful.

 

From what I gather she liked him at first, he fell for her and wrote her flowery words, gave her flowers, and told her she meant a lot to him. They had sex and she said she likes him but his behavior is odd. He maintained how much he likes her and bought her a Christmas present and she turned 180*, telling him it wasn't necessary and that she couldn't be with him.

 

 

OP, sounds like she's done. I wouldn't keep waiting for another response. Something happened to cause her feelings to diminish or she met someone else to distract her. Sorry.

[dare4u]

I write again.

 

We were friends (me 27 m,she 21 f) first and later i developed feeling for her and finally i kissed her.We chat almost everyday and she told me everything about her:-Family ,dreams ,her thoughts etc. Befre We met regularly but now its long distance 400 Km,i meet once a month.We had great traveltrips. Due to distance ,i thought sending cards,which i sended it.Also sended her flowers which she liked.

 

But in December first week,i sended her Present ,she told me:i dont need presents please.She was Angry and told me'' Its nice to spend time together but we cant be a couple or else ,i cant tell u this on face to face''.I apolozise for this and later i realized i made mistake.

 

After few days,We had phone conversation and she told me on phone (with angry tone) that '' we can't be couple,we dont match eachother, and she thinks i play games and i am not who i am and told me to behaves like i behaves with my friends like Little Chat .I told her i didnt told her about her mistakes she make sometime and her wrong thinking way because may she felt hurt and i didnt want to be MOM/DAD. I told her every nature of her like what she feels and her sadness and all. Later she was cool like ice and was talking like before .Also she told me if i want Relationship,i want SERIOUS Relationship.''

 

After this converstation,we are going to meet this weekand and and next weekand.Please tell me now how can i make working like before ?

How to make our relationship like before?WHat should i take care of from now?I was thinking if i meet her this weekand,i would take her hand and talk a while and KISS her.Is BAD IDEA?Shall i ask her to vist her alone at her house for 1 day and spend NICE time like we did? or in PARK?

 

I love her too much and every dreams of her is important for me even she don't want me.I am ready to wait for her.

 

P.S we live in Europe ,she is european and i am Asian.I kow she changed her university 2 time and again chaning 3rd one.So she feels like FAILED in LIFE.I want to give her my hand to her to STAND up her. I understand her very well and try to motivate her and support her and she knows that.Ja ,i made mistake thinking by heart and did stupid things.

 

Pleas give me your suggestion,i will be very grateful for your time and reply.Its killing me everday thinking of her.

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm sorry OP, but it sounds like she's just not interested any more. You mentioned that she said your behaviour is strange sometimes - what is she referring to? That might paint a clearer picture for us; it may help you understand why she's not keen on a relationship.