bathound Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Hi everyone, Abt a month ago a woman whom Im interested in was going away for a 2 week business trip. So i texted her the night before her departure to wish her a safe journey as well as indicating hope to meet up with her when she returns & to take care. She thanked me & said probably able to meet up closer to xmas as she may have another trip in early december. To which I replied "Take care always". My thoughts were focused more on her nxt trip rather than our potential meeting up. I thought it was a good reply at the time but some hours later, Crud! It occurred to me that focusing on the future mtg up shld have been the correct reply, & so I went "I'd be looking forward to meeting you at that time & Xmas dinner would be on me, no ifs & buts abt it. Your turn to buy us dinner can come another time." (She did say in our 1st dinner date 2 weeks prior to this that the next 1 wld be her turn).& "In the mean time do hv a restful night" She didnt reply. So suddenly I felt unsure abt things & if I really blew it or not. I just let it be. Anyway I didnt contact her the whole time she was away, not even after she returned as she would most likely be busy with the post trip office work. I did receive her was her acceptance to be my linkedin contact however a few days ago however. Come early Dec, I text her to ask of any trips coming up & to just to wish her well & a safe journey & to take care if there is. She replied that she returned a week earlier & was taking time to recuperate. Her Dec trip was cancelled by her boss. I replied "In a way thats good for you. You must be exhausted" & "Hope the jet lag wasnt too bad". Again no reply. Perhaps I should have been more focused on being empathetic & sympathetic to her condition?? Ive not text her since then. Dont know if she's pissed with me or not. Crap! Ive never had soooo much trouble replying to texts from gfs or crushes before this one. Its like all of a sudden im hit my mental blocks. Dont quite know how to respond all of a sudden. Have I inadvertantly pissed her off with my replies? Any way my replies could have been improved?
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 its time to dig deep into the toolbox of despair and find that one lonely text at the very bottom, all dusty, which is hardly ever used.. only that one text can save you now.. ..know what it is? you pretty much blew it. so, being all nice and easy going is going to turn her off. youre NOT A CHALLENGE to her! the only type of text that MIGHT save you, is something straightforward and 'non-caring'. this way, she MIGHT think, 'what the heck, isn't he interested in me?' you constantly wished her well, wished her safe, yada yada yada, are you her dad? girls don't want to hear that all the time. it makes them feel stupid. HENCE.. text her, "Im starving. Where's my dinner?" its pretty much a last resort. I don't like your texting style with women. youre too soft and Mr. Roger's'ish. IF she replies back, it will be one of two ways.. 1. she will say, "haha! ok youre on!" (or something like that). or 2. she will say, "I don't know what youre talking about" ( or something like that). desperate times call for desperate measures. don't be such a softy with women. they want a man, not a daddy.
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