polynomial Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 So I've had an on-off relationship with this man for over 2 years. In the past 1,5 years he has dumped me several times (5, if I remember correctly). The reasons include: him not being sure, not having time for a relationship, being severely depressed after finding out he had an illness for which there is no cure, then again because not having time etc He's only 23 (same age as I am) and he started his own company in the beginning on this year. Before that, he would still work non-stop. But the thing is, we always had this communication problem and every time we had broken up, we eventually talked things through until there was nothing that we kept from each other. So last time we got back together, I really thought that this was it. We are going to make it. And he always assured me that whenever we have a problem, we just need to talk about it and we'll get through anything. Now in November he had to "hire" a friend (long story, but he doesn't really pay him minimum wage but he lets him live at his apartment) from his hometown. I don't have a place of my own so obviously things got a bit crowded, as his brother was also there 1/2 of the week (their father owns it so he can't chase away his brother) so things got a bit crowded but he still reassured me that everything will be alright one day and that he would never leave me again. The day or two before he still decided to dump me he even said that he only cares about his family and me in this world. Yet he still left me behind?? I'm just having a hard time to cope. I know this time this is REALLY it, because I feel like I could not take this ever again, I'vee been through this so many times before, yet it still hurts so much. Why would he assure me he would NEVER leave me & then turn around and still do it? And I realised him being a workaholic wouldn't probably change in the near future and I understand that I wasn't happy with this aspect, I still cannot shake the feeling that noone would ever love me again like he did.. Although he said he did, yet still left me.. Multiple times.. I feel so worthless
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 You aren't worthless. That relatiosnhip just wasn't your true love / forever partner. In the immediate aftermath of a break up, it does feel overwhelming, but you will love again. Hang in there.
PogoStick Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 6 tries is enough. Don't you agree? Move on and find someone who will really commit. 2
Author polynomial Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 6 tries is enough. Don't you agree? Move on and find someone who will really commit. I do, rationally I realise that 6 tries is MORE than enough, it's just that.. After the first time he dumped, he wanted me back so bad I thought he would never EVER leave me again. All the dumping that followed, I could always understand his reasons behind them.. And every time he promised not to leave me. I realise that yes, he said one thing and thought another, it's just hard..
Poptree Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 This sounds a bit like my situation. Ex left me more than four times and has left me this past Thursday. We can only try our hardest to move on and stop giving them chances. Even as I type this, I know how hard it is to not accept them back into your life. I still don't know how to. Focus on you though and try to move on from him. Find your happiness without him!
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