robbysurfs Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) At first I did not feel to much after she left me and now I am drifting on a sea of old heartbreaks. I think about her everyday and its been 8 months after bu with nc and I am crushed. I wander around my city and I sometimes see couples together and I sometimes want to approach them and say "it will never work". I feel hardened and betrayed unearthed and alone my body strewn across a barren land left to die. I opened up my heart to this women and she discarded it after the thrill was gone so was she and I was left with broken promises she sold me. I have been out with other women even slept with some but they all lack luster. I give up! I dont want to go through this **** anymore. Maybe I am destined to walk alone I can not see through the past and the future is grim just a bunch of old memories I am stuck with. Maybe one day when the smoke clears and I am not war torn from love I will feel better. Today is not that day my friends I just want to go back to when it was all BJ's and Cartwheels... Edited December 8, 2013 by robbysurfs 1
Grumpybutfun Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) robby: Life isn't all bj's and cartwheels. Sadness is not something you have to wear like a mantle. You could try not being so melodramatic and embracing the pain, getting through it and trying to find someone who actually likes you and wants to be with you rather than giving up because of someone who didn't...ah, what am I saying, you like this pain, it makes you feel like a defeated warrior on the battlefield of love. Give up, it gives guys with tenacity, logic and strength of character more chances at finding the good girls out there. Failed relationships are tools that teach us how to approach the next one, not life enders that hold us in thrall to our pain. Learn how to accept, process and agree with this pain and you will learn how to find the relationship that works for you. I have been married for 20 years and my goal was to find someone good for me. If someone didn't want me then I knew that was not the person I would waste my energy on. Good lesson to learn, if you can get your head out of your misery long enough to pay attention to the future instead of dwelling in the past. Grumps Edited December 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Non-conforming content redacted 6
Sososad Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 If you hold on to that attitude you may end up walking alone. Pretty much everyone on this site has had heartbreak maybe worse than yours who knows ... It didn't work out and that's sad you invested time and emotion and everything else in that girl but it wasn't to be.. And sadly that's life .. But when I see other couples on the street looking happy and in love I envy that .. So what if it doesn't last there happy,smiling and learning .. You gotta stop feeling so hard done by if it didn't work out and there's ok houses or kids to be concerned in the hurt and pain.. Well that's something .. I can't wait till the day I find someone that makes me smile and happy again wether that lasts or not .. I don't mind but I'm still optimistic and some of that's the fun in finding out !!! Try be more positive it's her loss!! 1
headinthecloud Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Be thankful that it happened because she taught you something about yourself and have faith in what will be. Chin up. Don't lay down. 1
Jenny1234 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 At first I did not feel to much after she left me and now I am drifting on a sea of old heartbreaks. I think about her everyday and its been 8 months after bu with nc and I am crushed. I wander around my city and I sometimes see couples together and I sometimes want to approach them and say "it will never work". I feel hardened and betrayed unearthed and alone my body strewn across a barren land left to die. I opened up my heart to this women and she discarded it after the thrill was gone so was she and I was left with broken promises she sold me. I have been out with other women even slept with some but they all lack luster. I give up! I dont want to go through this **** anymore. Maybe I am destined to walk alone I can not see through the past and the future is grim just a bunch of old memories I am stuck with. Maybe one day when the smoke clears and I am not war torn from love I will feel better. Today is not that day my friends I just want to go back to when it was all BJ's and Cartwheels... This too shall pass....you're just caught in the rain storm now of this lingering cloud. I'm 7 months out and feel very similar. I can't stand seeing happy couples everywhere..... My ex dragged me to 10 weddings over the 3 years we were together....I keep thinking 50% of marriages end in divorce now... Good luck people! I hate being back to square one... But I have been given on other option! Blah
sambo77 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I hear ya Robby. Once you've experienced the "bjs and cartwheels" (as you eloquently put it) and the "emotional high" that accompanied them (BTW...who was doing the cartwheels during the bj...you or her? Not that it matters...both are impressive it is hard to find something that lives up to that. When other people and new experiences just don't measure up it kinda feels like you might have seen the "highest highs" you're ever gonna see, doesn't it? And that makes you crave the ex like you crave a line of coke. Nothing else seems to measure up. And the thought (although keep in mind that it's only a prediction) of living your life out knowing that nothing you'll experience will ever feel like that again...well... I know life isn't all about the emotional highs. My ex gave me some massive highs...and even though I know our life in between those highs was not conducive to the development of a healthy, stable relationship...I still miss her like I've never missed anyone. Anyway buddy...I'm right there with ya...walking around the city close to telling couples "it'll never work" too...
Sugarkane Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 It could be worse, you could've been married with kids and unable to go NC. Or financially screwed over and only part time custody, which happened to a family friend of mine.
smuggy95 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 i know exactly how you feel man. it will pass...everyone here has had that feeling. No one can pretend they haven't felt that pain before
Author robbysurfs Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Ty for all the real support and for those of you that feel its necessary to kick a man when hes down well I guess thats your problem. I should of mentioned I have been in a lot of failed relations I am 37 and it gets tougher as you get older...sigh
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