I can't tell if this guy likes me or is interested? !

[nicolenaomi]

(I'm 20 years old and the guy I'm talking about is 23.)

There's this guy in one of my university classes (a smaller class) and he talked to me on the first day of class and invited me to this fundraiser thing because he heard I was interested in human rights (not sure if he invited others or not). After that, every class he would ALWAYS SIT NEXT TO ME. Even if that meant him pulling a chair into the corner of the table text to me he would do it. My friend noticed this too. She also noticed that two classes ago, he came in late and looked near me to sit next to me but there was no room. We've chatted about class, and whenever I ask him a question he's so attentive and explains everything in detail to me and is a gentleman. Also, he always defends me in class and agrees with what I'm saying. Whenever I'm talking he's looking at me too sometimes. I really got this vibe that he likes me. I thought maybe a lot of this was coincidence but I started to like him and I didn't wanna miss this opportunity like I've missed others. My friend helped me and out planned to study together with him today but he couldn't make it because the roads were bad where we live. He was texting my friend that he couldn't come so I sent him a text a bit later saying that I heard he couldn't make it and that I hope the roads get better and he hasn't answered. I texted him about studying the day before and he answered though. It like he likes me, but is really hot and cold? What do you think? Also I'm really friendly and smiley and not snobby at all. But today my friend told me that she doesn't know if he's just naturally flirty or if he likes me, and that really confused me. Why go out of your way to sit next to me in every class and defend me? Confused. Help?

[BOREDouttaMymind]

this is one of those scenarios which is so easy to figure out, yet 20 year olds haven't learned the trick yet.

 

HENCE!... I shall enlighten you.

 

instead of being confused and logging into loveshack.org to find a word of wisdom, just ask him!

 

egad! ask him??? you mean...verbal communications??? yep. no texts. no sign languages. actual..... words.

 

next time he pulls up his chair or gets close or whatever the heck he does, just do a little laugh thing that girls do like a friendly giggle, and then ask, 'you must like me'.

 

with that, he'll respond in one of two ways..

 

1. he'll totally deny it, with which you can now move on

 

or

 

2. he'll ask what do you mean, with which you explain, 'I don't know, it seems like you want to get to know me which I think is kinda cool'.

 

now..... with that, he'll respond one of two ways.

 

1. he'll say, 'well ya, I think youre cool' or something like that

 

or

 

2. he'll say, 'oh no way, I don't know, I didn't mean to make it look like I like you.

 

tah dah! problem solved. dang im smart.

[Blade96]

That guy acts like the guy I study Russian with on Skype, who is my crush. Came together cause he heard I wanted to learn Russian. Goes out of his way to spend hours with me almost every weekday evening with me. Defended me when another guy made fun of a mistake I made in Russian. Flirted with me. Told me I am beautiful. One day I did suggest that I think he likes me too which he responded positively. Then, after a few days a bout a month after we first met on a russian language forum, he commented on my new pic I put up saying I look good and more flirts, I blurted out in Russian that I had a feeling he was interested in me and said I felt the same way towards him. His response was positive, that distance is no barrier and the language barrier is as surmountable as sound. Bango.

 

So yeah. Just say something to him like that. I bet you get a positive response. This Russian is in his 50's and your guy in his 20's and I'm assuming, not Russian, but I am guessing that flirting is not that much different no matter where the said people are from. Or what age they are.

Edited December 8, 2013 by Blade96