whitechocolate55 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I've been dating a guy for about 4 months now, and things have been going really well. He came off a little strong at first, but I reciprocated as I genuinely felt he was the one (this is the first time I've developed such a strong connection with someone). Undoubtedly, we've had a few misunderstanding here and there - nothing to big, but through those I realized he was really sensitive. So I started to become cautious of my actions, but at times I have no idea what will upset him. Nevertheless, he'd text me all day, and be really lovey dovey and what not. He does have a little history though that worries me. Back home (where this is acceptable) he got married at the age of 16 because he apparently fell madly in love with some girl, but he then cut off the marriage a year into the marriage because he realized he wasn't what he was looking for. He has also told me he has this tendency to "get over" people really quickly, and he doesn't feel like he needs anyone to complete him. As for the marriage thing, he said he was young, immature and stupid - but he learned a lot from that mistake. I took his word for it. Nevertheless, for the past two days he has been acting relatively different. He isn't being as affectionate, and his responses to texts are slow/dry. We always talk on the phone at night, and he's still making the effort to call, but the phone conversations are very unenthusiastic and formal. Whereas, before this our conversations would be never-ending, and funny, and all lovey dovey. Normally, whenever he gets this way, it's because I've unintentionally pissed him off in someway, so I kinda chase him around to figure out what's wrong, but he'll tell me in a day and we solve the problem. This time I decided NOT to chase him around, as I don't feel like I've done anything wrong. I just asked him ONCE last night if everything was okay, and he was all "yeah, it's just the weather." To which I said, "okay, if there's anything wrong. You can always talk to me. I'm here for you." And that was that. I'm just really confused at this point. I feel like maybe, he's "over" me too now? Should I just let him be? I am responding as dry as he is speaking, as I really don't feel like being affectionate or pushy, if he's not willing to tell me what's wrong.
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Talk to him. You may have subconciously projected disgust at his prior marriage & now he's backing off becuase he fears you are rejecting him.
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