runningblind Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) EDIT: It should I'm really CONFUSED on how to approach this. Sorry! haha Hey everyone! I'll try to keep this short. I am currently um...talking to or "seeing" this guy that lives 3 hours away from me. The boundaries are unclear, but I'll get to that here in a second. We knew each other in middle school and recently started talking again after he randomly found me on a dating website. We had very randomly talked over the years since then. We're both 23 now. On our first date 2 months ago, he asked me forthright if I was sleeping with anyone. I said "no", then he said that he didn't want me sleeping with other people unless it was just physical with no emotions involved, and he didn't want to find out if I had done that. It caught me off-guard. Then I saw him again the next month and I stayed with him for 2 days. He had taken work off and everything for me. I felt like he was really putting our time first, and I was impressed. We discussed things again, and he said that he does not want a long-distance relationship. He tried it a few years ago when he first got into the military, and he did not enjoy it. He also told me he would be jealous if he found out that I had been with someone else, and that if I got a boyfriend, he would stop talking to me and he wouldn't wait for me. (I'm moving to his city in 8 months). He is affectionate with me when we're together and he is affectionate in his text messages. I am Facebook friends with him, and he is tagged in pics with girls all the time. I don't like it, but I can't say anything because he's not my boyfriend. So I never look at his page. I guess I'm just confused about this. I feel like I'm following rules and I don't know what the next step is with us. Heck, I don't even know if I'd call it "dating" what we're doing. We don't even talk everyday. He sucks at texting back. He looks at his phone and forgets to text back. I saw him do it when I was with him, so I know he doesn't only do it with me. TL;DR: Man says he doesn't want a long distance relationship with me, but gives me rules to follow. I'd like to tell him that I would like to have more of a substantial relationship with him (especially since there are freakin' rules), because I don't even feel like we're dating. So how should I clarify this with him? I have no idea how to bring this up. I can't be on the outskirts for another 8 months, and I don't even know if he'd get more serious with me when I move there. And no, I'm not moving there for him. I'm moving back to my home state after college. Edited December 8, 2013 by runningblind
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