fpa06mr Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 So here's my situation. I'm 25 years old, male. I have been in education all of my life and am in the home stretch of my PhD now. Over the past few years I feel like I've grown a lot as a person but I have neglected romantic relationships completely. Whilst I'm not a complete virgin, my experiences with the opposite sex have been few and far between. To be honest I have felt mostly apathetic about that - content with being single, rarely if ever feeling lonely, often too preoccupied with other things to make any sort of effort with dating etc, and often times just a bit lazy. However, recently I've had an eye-opening experience. I'm currently working in another country for a few months and have met and gotten to know a lovely girl who is doing the same thing. She already has a boyfriend and we're from different parts of the world anyway so nothing is going to happen between us, but she's made me realise how much I would love to have someone like her in my life. I want a real connection with someone like her - she's clever, interesting, warm, funny, cute, easy to talk to and seems like a genuinely good, honest person. The times I get to see her are the highlight of my week. However... although I now feel motivated to find someone when I return home, I don't even know where to start with this. I've got no practice with dating or attempting to get dates, don't know where to look to find girls like her, and am concerned that girls will assume there's something wrong with me (there really isn't, believe me) since most people have been in at least 1 long term, serious relationship by now. Do you have any advice for me?
OptimistPrime Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Try getting out and being around other people. Be comfortable in your skin. Exude confidence. You'll meet all kinds of people and remember that a kind word to everyone you talk to will be remembered long after you left. The most attractive people I know (both genders) make others want to be around them! And if you're not in the habit of smiling then change that: a smile is telling the world you are approachable and not a threat! Acknowledge strangers who make eye contact with a friendly smile, greeting or nod as you pass them. Some will give you the cold shoulder but don't let them dampen your spirits. Keep at it and before long it will be second nature. Eventually that special someone will come along.
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