notaneatfreak Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 i am trying to reach out to an old friend who just lost his brother. his wife said she would pass her condolences on to him, he got so mad at her for talking to me and then had her delete me on Facebook and refuses to let her speak to me or be friends with me and then he rips up the condolence card I made for him to give through a friend. All I did was sign my name on the back. I don't even know how to respond to this. I am just hurt and these people are adults and they say they are Christians. I don't get it!
L1ght Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) i am trying to reach out to an old friend who just lost his brother. his wife said she would pass her condolences on to him, he got so mad at her for talking to me and then had her delete me on Facebook and refuses to let her speak to me or be friends with me and then he rips up the condolence card I made for him to give through a friend. All I did was sign my name on the back. I don't even know how to respond to this. I am just hurt and these people are adults and they say they are Christians. I don't get it! You missed out the part where you tell us the full story. Obviously you have history with these people and something has happened in the past to get you where you stand with them today. I'm guessing there is a long and complicated story that goes along with your very one sided description of events. Besides that if people don't want you in their life sometimes it better to walk away. Edited December 8, 2013 by L1ght 2
Author notaneatfreak Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 ya i did miss out on the part that her husband hates me because i refused to sleep with him when he was getting over her leaving when she left while they were dating, eight months later she came back and they got married. didn't feel like that was important because the whole drama that unfolded after is a part of my life i am trying to block out.
CC12 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 ya i did miss out on the part that her husband hates me because i refused to sleep with him when he was getting over her leaving when she left while they were dating, eight months later she came back and they got married. didn't feel like that was important because the whole drama that unfolded after is a part of my life i am trying to block out. Then why did you even contact him in the first place? Like, okay, maybe you thought it was the right thing to do to offer condolences to an old friend. But it sounds like you created a bit of drama over it. You should not have tried to send a message through his wife. And then after your offer was clearly rejected and she blocked you on facebook, you had another friend deliver a card from you? Did I understand that correctly? Even if I didn't, I think you came on a little strong. A death in the family is a very emotional time. It's not a time to try to place yourself in the middle of things and get offended that your offer was not accepted. You should have sent a condolence card addressed to your friend saying you know you've had differences in the past but that you're there for him if he needs someone to talk to. But then again, why would you say something nice like that if you're trying to block out that part of your life? I don't understand your motivations. 1
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