Heartbroken12416 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Hi there! So a few weeks ago, I posted about my ex boyfriend/fiance breaking up with me.... Well I found out recently that he's seeing somebody new....already!. Well to make a very long story short, this "other girl" is posting things to purposefully hurt me on her facebook page. She's not using my name or anything but she's saying things like "stay off my page (B word) and keep your nose out of my business!" and "what's wrong poor poor (B word), I have what you want and you don't like it?, well he's mine now so get over it!" and oh my favorite has to be "you don't like what I have now and you don't? well you f'd up and now he's my man so deal with it!". Both myself, some of my family members and a bunch of friends reported her comments to facebook staff, but they came back and said that it didn't violate their terms of use or whatever, so that they weren't going to do anything about it. So I wanted to come here and ask for advice because I'm wondering if there is ANY possible chance that I can call the police on her for "harassment" or something. I know facebook wouldn't do anything....but is it actually against the law to be doing this?. Like I said, she didn't put my name or anything but I have proof from a friend that she was directing those comments at me. My one friend sent her a message on facebook a few days ago telling her that what she was doing was uncalled for, that it wasn't right, etc... but she was very nice about it. She didn't say anything derogatory or anything and was very polite. Well this girl responded back to her saying "well maybe if his ex didn't treat him so badly, she wouldn't be complaining!, she's just upset because he's with me now, and fyi he's amazing btw!". So anyway, after reading all of that, do you think I would be able to get the police involved in this?. Thanks in advance for your help!.
momo81 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Hi Heartbroken. Sorry you have to go through all that rubbish that girl is typing. Let her continue being a clown, you can easily block her on FB so you don't see any of her comments. Keep your head high, and your dignity intact. If she starts threats, then get the police involved, but I reckon just block her. Your poor ex having to have her in his life. Chin up lady.
BlametheIrish Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Why would you want to get the police involved? Be the bigger person and block her fb ignore all that negative bs, and try your best to.move on. That's the best thing you can do for yourself. Leave the police out of it, it will just make you look desperate for attention. 1
maturityassets Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Yeah just block the both of them. I know you're curious and maybe you feel like you are a part of this drama but you are more deserving than this petty nonsense. Pick your own story to be involved in. Also if friends or family members are telling you what she is saying, just ask them not to tell you because you don't care about what someone that insecure is saying (which is what she probably is. Probably just hates the fact that you were a part of your exes life and that she is just a rebound) So yeah ignore!
Author Heartbroken12416 Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 Thank you so much for both of your replies!. I definitely get what you both are saying... I guess in a way I'm just so upset by this....and instead of letting me mourn in my own way, she keeps saying things to get under my skin and upset me. When my ex and I talked the other day about it, he swore up and down that they aren't in a relationship and that they are just doing these things to "hurt me" . But he's responding to her comments with "sweety" so I know that was all bull.... I'm just so hurt by this. Like I said, instead of letting me mourn, they keep attacking me....but in a way, like you both said, if I didn't look at her page, I wouldn't have a reason to be upset.... Thanks again for your help!
Author Heartbroken12416 Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 Very true!!....I didn't think of it that way!!. My ex told me the other day that she was saying how immature I was to be looking on her page and whatnot....it's like, and you are being mature doing all of this stuff on facebook? lol. She is 4 years older than me and she's acting more childish!, because in all honesty I haven't posted ONE THING on my page "getting back at her"!. I told myself that I wasn't going to lose control and stoop to her level. I just find it funny too that my ex said that one of the reasons that he left me was because of how immature I was (according to him) but now he's with that low life?? LOL. I really have no doubt in my mind that she is just a rebound. She was probably the first thing (cause I'm not even going to address her as a human being after all of this) to come into his life, and he took it. But also, thank you for the compliment. Literally everybody, friends and family are telling me that I deserve MUCH better than him and I'm really starting to believe it. I've really been doing not too bad lately and I'm making big plans for myself!. I can't wait to start my new life without him and hopefully find a MUCH better guy one day....because God knows, there are A LOT of men in this world that are better than him....
momo81 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Let her to continue to show her true colours and to continue being immature. Meanwhile, keep being your beautiful mature self. Hold your head up high, keep your dignity and focus on healing. Put all the energy this girl has caused, into doing something better for yourself. You are worth more than these childish actions this girl is creating. Do your emotions and yourself a favour and block her. That way you won't see anything she writes and she'll continue to look like a fool to everyone else. Keep positivity in your life.
flitzanu Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 why exactly are you still talking to your ex when he's banging this other girl, lying to you about it, and allowing/approving of her posting this stuff? 1
Sugarkane Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Why would you want to get the police involved? Be the bigger person and block her fb ignore all that negative bs, and try your best to.move on. That's the best thing you can do for yourself. Leave the police out of it, it will just make you look desperate for attention. If this woman is so happy with the OPs ex, then why is she posting this crap?! This woman sounds like a psycho for going after her boyfriends ex for no reason. I'm disappointed Facebook washed their hands of this.
TylerDurdenn Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Block ex and block her, then be done with it.
Shaine Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Omg. Just pretend you didnt see her post! You're making it obvious that you're stalking them. Please stop. Tell your friends to stop contacting them, block them and dont tell you anything about her. When your ex calls you, pretend you you are over him. Be cold, or bored talking to him, whatever. Fake it till you make it. 1
Simplysimon Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Just dump face book for 6 months sucks anyway. Why read it ? Why bother with him or her. Why do you need to ask about such trivial things. It's like people complaining about a tv programme , turn the channel over ?..
ravssss Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Jst unfriend him/her .. not a mean thing to do .. but wud help u a lot in the long run ... I mean stupidity is born with her .. jst ignore .. ur life is fine without this ...
organizedchaos Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Hi there! So a few weeks ago, I posted about my ex boyfriend/fiance breaking up with me.... Well I found out recently that he's seeing somebody new....already!. Well to make a very long story short, this "other girl" is posting things to purposefully hurt me on her facebook page. She's not using my name or anything but she's saying things like "stay off my page (B word) and keep your nose out of my business!" and "what's wrong poor poor (B word), I have what you want and you don't like it?, well he's mine now so get over it!" and oh my favorite has to be "you don't like what I have now and you don't? well you f'd up and now he's my man so deal with it!". Both myself, some of my family members and a bunch of friends reported her comments to facebook staff, but they came back and said that it didn't violate their terms of use or whatever, so that they weren't going to do anything about it. So I wanted to come here and ask for advice because I'm wondering if there is ANY possible chance that I can call the police on her for "harassment" or something. I know facebook wouldn't do anything....but is it actually against the law to be doing this?. Like I said, she didn't put my name or anything but I have proof from a friend that she was directing those comments at me. My one friend sent her a message on facebook a few days ago telling her that what she was doing was uncalled for, that it wasn't right, etc... but she was very nice about it. She didn't say anything derogatory or anything and was very polite. Well this girl responded back to her saying "well maybe if his ex didn't treat him so badly, she wouldn't be complaining!, she's just upset because he's with me now, and fyi he's amazing btw!". So anyway, after reading all of that, do you think I would be able to get the police involved in this?. Thanks in advance for your help!. I don't understand. Why are you looking? Why haven't you blocked your ex and this woman? Why are you allowing this to happen to yourself? Block them. Move on.
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