Suicidal Thoughts

[LostConfused123]

I understand you're concerned, but I think you'll find he's perhaps somewhat embarrassed by this thread, and is choosing not to reply...

I hope that's the case. Even though there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

 

btw, AnyaNova, I thought the same thing when I read the last line of his post. It was a little unsettling.

 

 

However, I would MUCH rather learn he just didn't want to deal with this thread anymore (even though he worried us all ) than learn he did something foolish.

[AnyaNova]

I have found that the people who talk about killing themselves, aren't the ones who do it. It's those that keep those thoughts to themselves, that are the greater concern.

 

Perhaps yes.

 

However, I'm given to understand that there are plenty of people who talk about it and then do it as well.

 

Furthermore, working it out with a bunch of people online who are nearly helpless to actually intervene seems quite different than calling a friend or a family member in the immediate vicinity.

 

Again, I can't say enough that I really hope you are right, and I think in fact, that you probably are.

 

But I also know that this is not a subject worth risking under-concern.

[LostConfused123]

I have found that the people who talk about killing themselves, aren't the ones who do it. It's those that keep those thoughts to themselves, that are the greater concern.

I never knew that. Makes me feel (a little) better. Hopefully he just slept it off and realized that was an unthinkable option.

I still wish he would come talk to us. There are so many that want to help him through this horrible journey since most of us are going through it ourselves.

[JDPT]

Vin- you'll know when you are ready to post again. I'll like to think you went to hospital and are getting professional treatment.

[AnyaNova]

Vin- you'll know when you are ready to post again. I'll like to think you went to hospital and are getting professional treatment.

 

Vin.

 

If you are out there and reading these. Pay attention to what I am about to say. Weigh it in your gut and know its truth.

 

I know it seems like this pain will never end. I know it seems like she is the only one that you could ever, ever love and that all is lost and nothing without her.

 

I know that, because I felt that way too after September with my ex. I really felt like there was this whole possibly epic love between us that could have been that never got a chance to be because of his choice (how true that was or how much of that related to the traumatic bond created by the whole thing I can't even say any more). And I didn't feel like I would ever be able to love anyone else. I didn't feel like there would be hope or that it could ever get better.

 

But I am here. I am better. Occasionally, I might get a melancholy moment or two (especially if my B's are down) but for the most part. I'm there. I am open to new possibilities. I KNOW that I can love someone else. And that I deserve someone who is not going to let his own "stuff" stomp my heart out on the floor. And yes, I know he didn't mean to.

 

I KNOW that there is so much more in my world.

 

I also know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of these sorts of messages, especially when feeling suicidal (been there, done that, multiple times thankfully haven't been back there in 14-ish years!). I know it doesn't even sound believable. Like, "maybe for someone else, but not for me."

 

No. For you, too!

 

Because I was there, disbelieving as well. but now I am out on the other end, absolutely knowing the truth of what those people who tried to tell me it would get better, spoke and yet fully aware of the utter near impossibility of believing it at the time.

 

Please. believe it.

 

It is out there for you too. The human body and mind is knit in its very fabric for the purpose of healing. It is built into our very DNA. Both physically and psychologically. If you can't hold on to the personal testimony, hold on to the very fact of our psychophysiological makeup, because that definitely applies for you and there is no question about it.

[reddragon588]

I have found that the people who talk about killing themselves, aren't the ones who do it. It's those that keep those thoughts to themselves, that are the greater concern.

 

This is true (with statistical evidence to back it up as well) but it's still a topic that cannot be taken lightly.

[Haydn]

Vin, Text Red today, have a chat with him. Or you are going to piss me off! Your a big boy. He will listen to anything you have to say. Do it.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Checking in, he's still not replied hmmm.

Everyone search Vinsanity1307 on your social networks.

Tried to find him on steam but don't think he's on it.

Found him on badoo.com but he hasn't logged on in the last week.

[radiodarcy]

Checking in, he's still not replied hmmm.

Everyone search Vinsanity1307 on your social networks.

Tried to find him on steam but don't think he's on it.

Found him on badoo.com but he hasn't logged on in the last week.

 

I googled his screen name and found a pof profile. It seems I can't view it unless I sign up.

 

So I set up an account only to find his account has been closed.

[LostConfused123]

I googled his screen name and found a pof profile. It seems I can't view it unless I sign up.

 

So I set up an account only to find his account has been closed.

I just can't figure out a motive for him starting a thread and then not responding to our help. Why post it if he doesn't want to talk??? I mean what would be the point?

 

 

This is what I keep telling myself anyway. I REALLY hope he is reading these and just doesn't feel like talking.

 

 

Vin, if you're reading this and don't feel like talking, it's cool.

We just want to know you're okay.

[Haydn]

I tend to agree with Aspiring on this one. I do hope you are reading this Vin and do post something to let us know you are ok. Even a simple yes. Take care mate.

[Zahara]

Oh, agreed. I want an update as much as anyone. But Vin is also a person who posts a thread, and when the majority of replies don't agree with him, he backs off for a few days and posts something else, and the cycle begins again.

 

I'd say since everyone disagreed with this latest thread, we'll hear from him in a few days. Past behaviour often predicts future behaviour.

 

It's one thing to post when you're venting and moping about something and you stay away because you're choosing not to deal with the responses.

 

It's another thing to cry suicide and just disappear. It isn't fair to those that care and are legitimately concerned and worried about his safety. You just don't do that.

[LostConfused123]

It's one thing to post when you're venting and moping about something and you stay away because you're choosing not to deal with the responses.

 

It's another thing to cry suicide and just disappear. It isn't fair to those that care and are legitimately concerned and worried about his safety. You just don't do that.

I agree. I'm starting to get a little angry. This seems cruel. I know he's in tremendous pain but ignoring us is worrying me that he did the unthinkable.

 

 

At this point I would be thrilled to see a F*** you!

[AnyaNova]

Vin, nobody thinks less of you. In fact, the fact that you reached out instead of just doing it bumps up my respect for you. You had the strength to at least try and get the help as much as you possibly could.

 

The fact that you have been here. It is okay to be embarrassed, but there is no need to be.

 

Don't let your own fears of what people might say or think if you come back cause you to make a bunch of people who cared enough to post on this thread worry about you needlessly. If you are ok..even if you can't post on this thread, can you PM somebody so that they can post and let us know that you are ok?

[xUnknown]

Yo bro,

 

Hope you're doin alright...I know things are rough, but you'll push through it. Hell, use that anger and emotion at the gym...work towards throwing another set of 45s on that bar. Make that you're goal...Set a time line. You'll make it through. You just have to stay positive. These negative thoughts of doing something bad to yourself is the devil talking to you... DON"T LISTEN. You're better than that. You deserve better and to move on from this. Put it all behind you. Start fresh. You'll make it through the storm.

 

-xunknown

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

Can someone lock this please? I'd imagine if he comes back, he'll create a thread. Pages of speculation is unnecessary and takes away from others who actually need help.

[Haydn]

 

 

Vin have a laugh at this and just say yes your fine.

[AnyaNova]

 

 

Vin have a laugh at this and just say yes your fine.

 

If six pages of attention is what he needs to not hurt himself or impulsively take his life, or if it will stop him from thinking about doing so.

 

I'm game.

 

Frankly, life is important enough I'm willing to give the attention necessary.

 

Just my thoughts.

[AnyaNova]

Can someone lock this please? I'd imagine if he comes back, he'll create a thread. Pages of speculation is unnecessary and takes away from others who actually need help.

 

There is room in this forum for everyone who needs help. And yes, given the topic, this one may get a lot of attention, but I wouldn't exactly put somebody threatening suicide in the "doesn't need help" category either.

 

I see where you are coming from, and I understand how unfair it feels for him to post that and disappear, but I don't know that locking it is quite the right strategy either.

[William]

Can someone lock this please? I'd imagine if he comes back, he'll create a thread. Pages of speculation is unnecessary and takes away from others who actually need help.

Yes, this thread has been reported and the thread starter hasn't been seen recently so we'll lock this. I often merge the thread starter's threads so know them fairly well. Thanks for your participation.