lollipopspot Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I don't understand why she would want to keep it; that is truly beyond me, and I have never kept any jewelry given to me by a man. I even gave back a 50.00 ring my ex gave me. I don't really understand that. If someone gives something to me, I think it's mine to do with as I please. I don't know why jewelry is different than other gifts. An engagement ring is a little different, but he told her to keep it, so I don't understand why it says something bad about her that she did. The money in this case is very little, since it certainly can't be resold for anything close to $800.
AnyaNova Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 So, I am on the fence about breaking NC to request my engagement ring back. It has been almost a year since my BU and NC for 9 months. I really don't know if it's worth it to do this or not. It is a beautiful custom made ring, but we both were against diamonds so it is only a semi-precious stone on a white gold band. It was about $800. I honestly would have spent much more, but this is what she wanted. And it is a beautiful ring The following is a quick rough draft of a possible email to the ex: Hi X, I would really like my ring back from you. During the emotional haze of our split I know I said you could keep it. But now that things have settled and become more clear, I think the right thing to do is return the ring. It was a symbol of something that is now gone and there is no reason for you to keep it. I really don’t want to open any communication with you, I just want my ring back. Me I'm anxious even making this post. At the mere idea of this. But I also fear this will remain an unresolved issue if I don't address it... I just don't know I think the right thing to do is to give it back. If I were her, I would have. And if I were her and couldn't bring myself to do so, I would definitely pause before dumping you! Can you handle the emotional fallout from getting back in touch with her? Are you absolutely sure that under the surface there are not any ulterior motives? These are not questions, of course, that any of us can answer, but if you can answer Yes and No respectively, I think you should be okay to do so.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 Can you handle the emotional fallout from getting back in touch with her? Are you absolutely sure that under the surface there are not any ulterior motives? These are not questions, of course, that any of us can answer, but if you can answer Yes and No respectively, I think you should be okay to do so. Actually, I am more like: NO, I am not sure I could handle the emotional fallout from getting back in touch with her. YES, I am absolutely sure that under the surface there are not any ulterior motives.
crazybestie101 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) So, I am on the fence about breaking NC to request my engagement ring back. It has been almost a year since my BU and NC for 9 months. I really don't know if it's worth it to do this or not. It is a beautiful custom made ring, but we both were against diamonds so it is only a semi-precious stone on a white gold band. It was about $800. I honestly would have spent much more, but this is what she wanted. And it is a beautiful ring The following is a quick rough draft of a possible email to the ex: Hi X, I would really like my ring back from you. During the emotional haze of our split I know I said you could keep it. But now that things have settled and become more clear, I think the right thing to do is return the ring. It was a symbol of something that is now gone and there is no reason for you to keep it. I really don’t want to open any communication with you, I just want my ring back. Me I'm anxious even making this post. At the mere idea of this. But I also fear this will remain an unresolved issue if I don't address it... I just don't know Wow , check out this crap. Came out today.It's crazy what people do with relationships and engagements. So pathetic. I personally would never want my stuff back because at some point that person matter to me that much. Its moments you shared , can't be compared with money. In your case , she should have given back to you. But since she didnt feel like. You gotta just man up and say "you can keep it". She is always gonna remember it. Ga. Man Must Pay $50,000 After Breaking Engagement to Fiancee, Appeals Court Says - Yahoo Edited December 8, 2013 by crazybestie101
loveiswar101 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Let her keep it buddy, move on. Why break 9 months of hard work. 2
Haydn Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Bollocks mate. Forget the ring. Your a cool guy, move forward and buy a ring in the future for a cracking woman who deserves it. 2
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