Jenny1234 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Would you rather not know anything about your Ex's life? Or actually know what they've been up too..... Some days I like knowing nothing ....other day the unknowns drive me nuts! Which is better?
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I guess sometimes I want to know. I gently inquire with friends, but half the time I just don't really care. Caring too much for them only means opening a whole can of worms... either way, it's not my problem if they are or aren't happy anymore...
LostConfused123 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I absolutely do not want to know. Unless he's in a mental institution because he can't forgive himself for letting me go. HAHAHA!!! Yeah . . right! 4
JDPT Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I rather know nothing of her and save me future grief. 3
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 My ex had PTSD and I genuinely care for his wellbeing. I don't contact him at all and he doesn't use any social media. There's no way for me to follow up... so that saves me a lot of grief 1
BlametheIrish Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I wouldn't want to know. I'd rather not waste anymore time or emotion worrying about an ex. Eaiser sa d than done, also easier if you tay out of your exes business. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Trust me, you DO NOT want to know. Sure, not knowing leaves a lot to your imagination. But knowing may lead to extreme pain and suffering. Ignorance is bliss!! 4
2fargone Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I don't need to know. I know her, that's enough for me... 1
Meadowgreen Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Would sooner not know. I'd pretend they don't exist if at all possible if that's what I need to do to heal... 1
headinthecloud Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Nothing...I don't want a setback. Plus, the imagination is always much better than reality. 2
Author Jenny1234 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Nothing...I don't want a setback. Plus, the imagination is always much better than reality. My imagination runs wild.... I've convinced myself with zero evidence that he has a marvelous new gf and amazing new life without.....then I remember why exactly he is like...and I highly doubt these assumptions! But still kills me not to know what's going on and I refuse to ask our one mutual friend.
greenflower Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 So what do you do when you actually know they are with someone else right after the break-up ? (saw them, and she rubber it in my face) It's so hard for me to think she's happy, having sex and fun with a new guy right away. Especially since she was such a complete bitch and she completely abused me emotionally... [Link] Unfair.
Author Jenny1234 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 So what do you do when you actually know they are with someone else right after the break-up ? (saw them, and she rubber it in my face) It's so hard for me to think she's happy, having sex and fun with a new guy right away. Especially since she was such a complete bitch and she completely abused me emotionally... [Link] Unfair. You just try to focus on your life and push forward....it's the only option you were given. Sometimes life just isn't fair. Keep strong
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 So what do you do when you actually know they are with someone else right after the break-up ? (saw them, and she rubber it in my face) It's so hard for me to think she's happy, having sex and fun with a new guy right away. Especially since she was such a complete bitch and she completely abused me emotionally... [Link] Unfair. Yeah, I found by accident that my ex was with someone pretty quick after me, and maybe even during. But, I know how she is and what she does in relationships and I doubt if it is a lasting, meaningful experience. Maybe it is and maybe it isn't... Just try to forget about what you saw and make sure you don't 'discover' anything else. Eventually you will get back to ignorance and be blissful 1
Haydn Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Nope, have no interest in what she is doing. But if she has an interest in what i am doing do i hope she saw me with those 7 dizzy blondes i took home the other night! Seriously though NO. 2
MoveAlong Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Not knowing is my plan to get better. So far, I have 1 day of no social media....meaning that I have one day of not checking her facebook....and one day towards getting better. If I get on fb, I am only going to upload pictures...nothing else. It's not ignorance...it's not punishing yourself.
AustralianGuy Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I prefer ignorance, because when you find out information, particularly bad information, it takes you all the way back to the beginning of your healing process. Ignorance is bliss, it is true in these instances
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