MalachiX Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 So, there's a young woman I see once a week at my internship. There are a few other interns there but we're the oldest of the bunch and sort of in the same place in our lives (went to grad school after already having a bit of carrier and are super focused in making sure we get a job when we get out). We've always gotten along but up until this point the friendship has been 100% platonic (on both side I think). In the previous two weeks we spent a bit more time along as two of the other interns changed their day so it was just us two. We ended up having a few surprisingly deep conversations over the lunch the last two weeks. One was about how superficial the movie business can be and how nice it is when you can really trust people. The other was about the brand of Bhuddism she practices and how it helped her cope with depression when she was younger (something I deal with some times). I think something about the last conversation let me see her a more complete and interesting person. Anyway, I came into the internship yesterday and something started to feel different. She had brought me a small book on Bhuddism to borrow as she'd mentioned it the previous week. Even though the other interns were there I found myself stealing glances at her in a way I hadn't before. Towards the end of the day she mentioned to everybody that she was trying to see movies in the afternoon because it was cheaper and I said she should let me know if she ever wanted a buddy. We agreed to catch something on Monday. I walked with her to the parking garage where we both parked and we hugged as we parted. For some reason we've never hugged before even though I tend to do that a fair amount with my female friends. Anyway, I was surprised that I really felt something when we hugged. So, now I'm trying to figure out what to do. We seemed like we were on the verge of becoming closer friends but now I'm starting to feel things but i'm not sure if it's mutual. Things are a tad complicated by the fact that I'm not even sure if she's straight or not. She hangs around with a number of people female friends who are gay or bi (or course, I've got some gay/bi friends too but not as many). When I first met her I thought she might be gay but am not sure because she's never talked about passed relationships. As silly as this sounds, I'm trying to figure out if the the fact that I felt something was because she might be interested too. Most of the times I've felt something like that, it's because there was a mutual attraction of some sort, I'm guessing due to pheromones (not very romantic I know). I have a lesbian friend who is SUPER HOT but I never get that feeling when we hug or I put an arm around her. I don't know if it's because I subconsciously won't let myself be attracted to my friend because i know she's gay or if chemically she simply feels little for me as a guy so she's not releasing the same pheremones (I promise I'm normally less annalytical when asking someone out Anyway, I'm thinking of asking if she wants to grab a quick bite to eat before the movie. I do that all the times when friends when we catch a flick so I don't think it's that big a deal but, if I'm still feeling something afterwards, I think I need to ask her out. Just wish there was an easy way to get a confirmation on the sexual orientation thing.
Author MalachiX Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 Would this get more of a response if I added some angry anti-feminist statements at the end of the post?
ShyGuy5 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 This is a tough one man. I bet a lot of people would tell you not to do anything in the workplace. The other problem is that there are a lot of things that are tough to get a handle of. We don't know what her orientation is. The good thing for you though is that you really don't have anything to lose. If she is interested in women, then it's not on you that she's not into you.
Author MalachiX Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 This is a tough one man. I bet a lot of people would tell you not to do anything in the workplace. The other problem is that there are a lot of things that are tough to get a handle of. We don't know what her orientation is. The good thing for you though is that you really don't have anything to lose. If she is interested in women, then it's not on you that she's not into you. The workplace thing doesn't really matter as we're both finishing with the internship next week. The worst that can happen is our last day (and drinks after with the other interns are awkward).
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