GG3 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 A few years ago I went out with a guy who was WAY too outgoing for me. Not only was he outgoing, I also thought he was a little full of himself and full of crap. I also thought he was married and lying which is the reason I never answered his texts or accepted invitations to go out again. The thing that annoyed me about him the most was on the date, he never asked me one question about myself. He bragged, bragged and bragged about himself and told tall tale stories. There weren't even pauses so I could speak. The dinner lasted between 2-3 hours and he didn't even offer to let me get a glass of wine while I "listened." At the end, I finally had to interrupt him to tell him I needed to go home and he seemed annoyed. He did not seem to read me at all or wonder if I was bored, thirsty, interested, or having a good time. Just seemed like it was all about him. That was a few years ago. Recently he contacted me telling me how he had liked me so much and was sad that I had quit talking to him. I told him that I thought he was married and he insisted he was not and asked could we please go to dinner sometime soon. I said okay thinking I would give him another chance and tell him that I needed him to ask questions more and let me talk sometimes too. We never did do that dinner because I eventually decided and told him I didn't think we are a good match, but during some of our texting conversations every time I tried to tell him something about myself, he dismissed it. "I tend to be pretty cerebral and need to really get to know someone in order to feel attracted." Him: "Yeah most women are." Then started talking about himself again. Me: I said something about my parents divorce. (trying to make a connection because he claims he is divorced and hated putting his daughter through it and how awful it was.) Him: "Yeah divorce is a bad thing but you got to get over it." That one floored me as I wasn't trying to sound sad. I was trying to make a connection and share something about myself! Every now and then I will come across a guy like this and I wonder DO THEY EVER REALLY GET TO KNOW ANYBODY?! Ugh. Anyone else meet these types?
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