It gets better (too inspire those who need it)

[Mcscooter]

I am here to give all of you whom read this hope. Hope that things will get better and I can only promise you, if you let it.

 

When going through a tremendous breakup. It can be quite difficult and i'm telling you all of us have been through it. Love is amazing, but at the same time it can destroy you so easily.

 

I'll share my personal story and my advice. That is why we are all on this forums, correct?

 

I was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years. I was head over heels for her. I did everything a good boyfriend can do. Being honest when necessary and showering her with affection. Most of her friends would consider me the "perfect" boyfriend, but I do not believe in perfection. So I was labeled as a Great/Badass boyfriend. Receiving compliments from her friends and family. I am sure she was once madly in loved with me. Yes the GIGS struck her hard. She dropped the bomb on me. You guessed it. I was crushed, deeply devastated. Things weren't the same. I wouldn't eat right, sleep at night, and I couldn't find the light to things anymore.

 

I than came searching for answers and I came across a website named LoveShack. It helped me a lot. I learned the NC Rule and I utilized it. At first it was not easy at all, but I had just gotten a deep cut and that will not heal in one day. As the days continue to go things got better, but that's because I let it. I started getting back in shape, I started new hobbies, I even went back into have somewhat of a social life. I didn't just changed myself. I upgraded myself. When I was working out. It was for my ex. I wanted to show her up. When I got a new hobbie. I wanted to show my ex what she's going to be missing. When I entered a social life. I wanted to show my ex I can do better! As the months past by. I completely forgotten why I was working out. Originally it was for her, but now I can say it's for myself. The new hobbies I learned. I now passion them and I forgot it was to show off my ex what I can do. The new social life. I have found better people. They're better people than my ex. I do know I can do better and it's proven fact. So all these things I did. I literally forgotten about my ex. Sure i'll think of her from time to time, but it's not the same.

 

The pain wasn't easy, but I surely did gain from it.

 

I am not here to give false hope, but actual hope.

 

Do not think she will come back or you will give yourself false hope, it is better to face the hard cold truth that she will never return. If she does than oh well lol.

 

The thing is you need to start working on yourself first. Get your sh*t together, Keep your head up, and move the f*ck on. I say it like a hardass because sugarcoating isn't going to help. Some times people just want it to be easy, but I've been telling you. This world is cold and sometimes you have to be cold with it. Not everything is cute and soft. Things are scary and hard. You can attack your problems with a simple stick or you can go charging in with a spear. I hope most of you can understand the metaphors I throw out.

 

Our life is base on decisions, just like how we decided to go out with the person(s) whom we loved. To ending a relationship. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions. You will always make them.

 

So most of you are facing to cope with the breakup. You will have no choice, but to accept it, but I know it's hard. That's when you make the finalized decision to move on with your life.

 

I was the guy that waited for her, Than one day I said f*ck it.

 

Things will only get better if you let it get better. The only person holding yourself down is yourself. It was you who developed emotional feelings, so it is also you who can lose those emotional feelings. I know. Easier said than done. Believe me. It took me time, but I am preaching that things become better and easier.

 

Our goal in life is to find happiness and you won't find any happiness with your ex. It's the memories that we miss, just like the memories we miss of being a kid. but life goes on and we all change. Your the living experience.

 

Feel free to inbox me or ask questions. I'll strictly answer them.

[barky2]

Excellent thread broseph, very proud of you.

 

Keep up the good work, you're right on track to where every single heartbroken person that ever came to LS for answers, will end up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Barky

[Qactus]

Hey bro.. i really loved what you wrote. It really was a motivating post. I dont know why but for some odd reason i find it impossible to forget the memories i had with ex.

 

Maybe time will change this feeling but right now thinking of forgetting her forever is really horrific. Its haunting me.

 

Lets hope we all come out of this miserable stage of life. We really deserve good people because we know how to love and how to live with love.

 

I get upset when i see how cruel the world can be and how these people break lives, hearts in just a fraction of time. I just hope i live better and for that i have to work hard.

 

Your post really helped to to look at myself. But still i cant do it.. I dont know but something is wrong with me. Maybe i'm still in shock even after 3 months.

[LostConfused123]

I'm having an especially hard day today. I really needed to read that!

Thank you!!!

Tears are streaming down my face right now and I had a lump in my throat while reading this but I think it's not sadness I'm feeling but a sense of like "Wow! I really will be over this one day and then it will REALLY be over"

Did that make any sense? Ha ha!

Anyway, thanks again for taking the time to come here and give us hope that we too will come out on the other side of this nightmare.

[loveiswar101]

Same, few days since BU and today the emotions got the best of me for the first time, tears galore in bed as I wake up. But this post has inspired a bit but who knows how ill feel later today or tomorrow. I not an evil person and wonder why this is happening.

 

Nut hey great post.

[throw_away_30]

Nice post, just what I needed today.

[LostConfused123]

Hey bro.. i really loved what you wrote. It really was a motivating post. I dont know why but for some odd reason i find it impossible to forget the memories i had with ex.

 

Maybe time will change this feeling but right now thinking of forgetting her forever is really horrific. Its haunting me.

 

Lets hope we all come out of this miserable stage of life. We really deserve good people because we know how to love and how to live with love.

 

I get upset when i see how cruel the world can be and how these people break lives, hearts in just a fraction of time. I just hope i live better and for that i have to work hard.

 

Your post really helped to to look at myself. But still i cant do it.. I dont know but something is wrong with me. Maybe i'm still in shock even after 3 months.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I have read lots of posts on here that for some reason the three month mark is especially difficult.

 

I am halfway to the three months and still think of him more than I would like to admit. Honestly, I don't think by three months I will be completely out of this nightmare either. I know it seems like an eternity (for me too) but in another three months I bet you will feel much much better. I guess time is really the best thing for us.

 

Wishing you peace!