6 Week Post BU

[underscore44]

I am writing to just share some input and i am sure some of you have seen me write on here before, I like to stop in from time to time

 

I am now 6 weeks post BU from an 8 year relationship where i was dumped and devastated. I feel like a new person and wow has it been a hell of a six weeks

 

I was deeply in love with my fiancé and destroyed when she left but i wasted no time and let me tell you how that has given me the best benefit from doing it

 

I read a lot of stuff on here about people having hard times dealing with the pain and can't pick themselves up so i told myself and refused to let myself get down about it. For the first few weeks i was in bad shape as anyone else would be but after that time period i woke up and said enough.

 

I cut ALL CONTACT, PEOPLE ALL OF IT. NO texting, NO calling, NO Facebook or emails or any other media sites. I disappeared and took her out of my life as well. Is she with someone else ? what is she doing ? how is she doing ? all of those questions are NO LONGER MY PRIORITY. Out of site people really is out of mind. There is nothing one can do to change someone else so do what you can control and change YOURSELF.

 

I have meet so many great people in these past few weeks just by going out. If they love you then honestly they will come back on their own and hell maybe at that point I'm not sure how i would feel about it anyway

 

Everyone please I am telling you this from someone who is going through the same thing.

 

CUT ALL CONTACT. don't seek out information about the other person that you aren't able to handle. It is not helping you move on at all and moving on is what you need to do. Just keep it out of your mind and keep telling yourself you will not let this bring you down and define who you are.

 

IF THEY LOVE YOU THEY WILL COME BACK. There is no such thing as a final word or maybe i should have said this or done that. JUST LET IT BE because at this point it just is what it is. Time heals all so give yourself a chance to just be you because you may never get this chance again to discover yourself.

 

Have a great and safe upcoming holiday and feel free to post about anything in here i would love to chat !!

[acidios]

you are 100% right.thats also something that i was thinking today .if she want me she will call no need to suffer enymore with thinking and agony today was my First "rebel"day that i controlled my self and my mind it was the First day also that idint think her when i woke up.its really powerfull Word if you think about it

 

 

"IF THEY LOVE YOU THEY WILL COME BACK" so true bro so true.

[underscore44]

Exactly and good for you !! Cause lets be honest here if they don't come back then clearly they didn't love you and i am telling you that you would much rather be away from this person and finding someone who really does care rather then being in a one-sided relationship cause long term that will destroy you much more than this short term pain.

 

You can't force someone to love you, so let it go and just go along for a drive and see where the roads take you. The future is a blank canvas and if you keep fearing it you will never get the chance to paint on it.