paigej91 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Is it cheesy and something you don't give thought to or is it something meaningful?
Author paigej91 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 sweet !! still romantic i mean are we getting hard hearted and rude in 2013? I hope not, but the so-called "hookup culture" of dating now days might make it less meaningful (or not meaningful at all) to some people.
Author paigej91 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 It means you are a couple. That brings up another good question- is it one of the first "milestones" when you first start seeing someone (given how small the gesture is)? Or is it reserved for a girl you're serious about?
carhill Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 IME, especially while being married, hand-holding was a wonderful way of expression 'connection' in public. 1
MalachiX Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 For me, holding hands is the first sign that we're "together" or moving in that direction. If you think about it, holding hands is one of the most intimate things you can do. We have more nerves in our hands than just about any other parts of our body (save for our sexual organs and feet). I don't know if this is true for everyone but I'll almost certainly kiss a girl before I hold her hand. Hell, there have been times when I've slept with someone before we held hands in a non-sexual way. I don't think holding hands is disappearing in our hook-up culture. I just think that sexual adults actually place it in a different priority. When very young and in early relationships before you're lost your virginity; holding hands is an early first step to intimacy. Some kids do it before they kiss. When you get to be older and may have had a number of partners, it begins to take a different priority. I guess most of us get to sex faster when we're older so holding hands becomes something when you've moved beyond attraction towards real intimacy. 2
yankees51988 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 (edited) I think it means absolutely nothing. Well, more it depends on the context- like if you are seriously seeing someone and holding their hands ok maybe it means something. However, I've held hands with girls I have had no interest in, just parading around the casino, with girls I am friends with and slept with once or twice while walking down the street, and with girls I dated. It really doesn't mean anything on its own. There would be times I would be walking down the street and chick friends of mine would wrap their arms around mine or be hugging me from behind as we walked, and I can see how if you didn't know us you would think we were a couple or something, but it never meant a thing and doesn't mean there is any intention for anything to happen. Edited December 7, 2013 by yankees51988
Author paigej91 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 For me, holding hands is the first sign that we're "together" or moving in that direction. If you think about it, holding hands is one of the most intimate things you can do. We have more nerves in our hands than just about any other parts of our body (save for our sexual organs and feet). I don't know if this is true for everyone but I'll almost certainly kiss a girl before I hold her hand. Hell, there have been times when I've slept with someone before we held hands in a non-sexual way. I don't think holding hands is disappearing in our hook-up culture. I just think that sexual adults actually place it in a different priority. When very young and in early relationships before you're lost your virginity; holding hands is an early first step to intimacy. Some kids do it before they kiss. When you get to be older and may have had a number of partners, it begins to take a different priority. I guess most of us get to sex faster when we're older so holding hands becomes something when you've moved beyond attraction towards real intimacy. I agree. For some reason, it seems like it's "supposed" to be a middle school "pre-kiss" stage. But for me, I wouldn't ever initiate or reciprocate hand holding unless I wanted a relationship with the guy. It's actually just as serious as the first time we have sex, maybe even more.
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