dealing with anger with ex

[flight E]

Saw ex today and felt a lot of emotions. But felt such terrible anger felt like bashing her with my jeep. Didn't do that anyways am not insane. Think the reason for this is becos I didn't listen to advice on loveshack should have left like a year ago. I feel cheated, used and humiliated. Though I never went on a begging spree. I don't want her back, I don't want to hate her, I just want to move on. I have been on nc for a month and three weeks but seeing her today messed me up for a while though am better now. Will these feelings pass and how do I make them pass faster

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

I got messed up today too... all because my dad got a parking ticket from when the ex was using his car just hearing his name made me mad again... he is blocked everywhere and yet somehow they still make an appearance in some shape or form! grr x I guess it will pass again xx

[BC1980]

I dealt with anger too. The best advice is to channel it into something else if possible. Also, I kept reminding myself that my emotions were not tied to another human being. I would not give someone the power to make me sad or angry. I think it's a conscious choice.

 

It's normal to be depressed or angry, and it's healthy to feel those emotions and let them out. However, at some point, you have to realize that it's a conscious decision to continue with these emotions. No person is worth it.

[JDPT]

You are currently dealing with perfectly normal emotions. I still have some residual anger and this is 7 months post BU. I used to cursed the day my ex was born and wished her nothing but to worst life can bring her. I later started to realize that I was inadvertently causing more damage to myself. This is an inevitable phase you are currently living. The one thing I can say is to not act on your emotions. I let my anger get the best of me. It will only leave you hurt and angrier in the end, trust me. Hang tight and ride through this rough patch, you will come out of this a new and improved you.

[JDPT]

I dealt with anger too. The best advice is to channel it into something else if possible. Also, I kept reminding myself that my emotions were not tied to another human being. I would not give someone the power to make me sad or angry. I think it's a conscious choice.

 

It's normal to be depressed or angry, and it's healthy to feel those emotions and let them out. However, at some point, you have to realize that it's a conscious decision to continue with these emotions. No person is worth it.

 

Well said, I like this.

[flight E]

Tanx u'all, I wish I could get loveshack to be an educational course in college. It truly helps avoid prolonging the pain. I truly hate my ex right now but I have Nver been a hateful person. I don't want to hate anyone. I just want to get on with my life. The hate and anger only gives me a headache. Will let it pass through hopefully in time it will stop. I just wish there was a practical way I can make it go faster

[BC1980]

Tanx u'all, I wish I could get loveshack to be an educational course in college. It truly helps avoid prolonging the pain. I truly hate my ex right now but I have Nver been a hateful person. I don't want to hate anyone. I just want to get on with my life. The hate and anger only gives me a headache. Will let it pass through hopefully in time it will stop. I just wish there was a practical way I can make it go faster

 

I don't want to hate my ex either, so I just don't think about him. I've never actually had such harsh feelings for someone else, and it surprised me. It's just not to give the ex any head space.

[headinthecloud]

Try to pretend your ex doesn't exist and that you never had a RS.

 

The anger will pass. When you have a "flash" thought that arouses anger within you, take a moment to experience it, don't fight it, then breathe and let it pass. Try not to hold on to the emotion as it will pass in a few minutes. It's normal. It's your ego reacting to feeling bruised.