lilpandabear8675309 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Hi everyone, Do you guys have any advice on how I can just relax and enjoy my relationship? This may sound like the oddest thing in the world, but everything is going so well that I feel like I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop. We have been together for almost a year, spend tons of time together, and never have fought (some minor disagreements naturally but we both are quick to resolve and apologize). The more and more I get to know him the more I feel that I have finally met "the one" - which is something he reciprocates. And the happier I get the more nervous I also get about loosing him. I don't think he will cheat on me in any way. My paranoia is more around one of us getting into an accident and dying, or that one of my std tests that I took before we started going out was actually wrong in it's results (they came back negative for everything) and I have accidentally given him some horrible disease and he'll think I cheated, or that I will get some condition that renders me unable to have kids. I know that such concerns are massively unwarranted - especially the ones where I know my health is fine - and just me being scared. My younger brother passed away unexpectedly last year so some of it may just be sensitivity to that. Has anyone else gone through this? How do I just relax and accept that maybe this time I actually found a keeper? If any of you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it. I don't want my worries to start to manifest themselves in my relationship and ruin a good thing. Thanks so much for listening and thanks in advance for any advice. (P.S. If anyone has any mediation tips or other tips on how to focus on the positive things and sooth anxiety please let me know.) 1
RonaldS Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 If you're going to lose him at some point, you are going to lose him whether you worried about it or didn't. However, becoming insecure about it almost ensures that your behavior and actions will change in a way that's not good for the relationship. Take the energy you're using to worry and use it to be a great, giving, understanding and supportive partner. In other words, don't worry about it and enjoy.
Author lilpandabear8675309 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Thank you both for your words of encouragement advice, and especially for your sympathies. My apologies for the typo too! I did indeed mean meditation. I will take your advice and try to relax. If I can't do it on my own as I may try to seek some professional help as I agree that I don't want my processing of grief to effect my relationship. Thanks again!
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