sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Last night I gave a man my number without him asking for it. I have never done this before! Trouble is, he is a little bit famous! (Not very). He lives near me and seems to flirt with me whenever I see him. I asked him to do a charity gig recently and he agreed. I spoke to him after the gig, but then I thanked him for doing it and walked off quickly. I saw him yesterday, I said hello in passing and quickly gave him my number. He said thanks and put it in his pocket. Is he going to find that weird? I am worried about it being awkward the next time I see him!
Under The Radar Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I'm assuming he is single, and if that's the case, you did nothing wrong ...... he will not find it weird. 1
StanMusial Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Last night I gave a man my number without him asking for it. I have never done this before! Trouble is, he is a little bit famous! (Not very). He lives near me and seems to flirt with me whenever I see him. I asked him to do a charity gig recently and he agreed. I spoke to him after the gig, but then I thanked him for doing it and walked off quickly. I saw him yesterday, I said hello in passing and quickly gave him my number. He said thanks and put it in his pocket. Is he going to find that weird? I am worried about it being awkward the next time I see him! Wouldn't he need your number to work out the details of the charity gig?
Author sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 When I asked him to do it, he gave me his agent's details.....
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 First rule of dating: don't throw yourself at a man because he may not want to catch you. What prompted you to give this guy your phone number? His celebrity status? He may be used to women giving him their phone numbers. So, I think it was a huge mistake that you did that, especially if his agent already has your contact information from that charity event he did at your request. He didn't give you his phone number, so that's already a red flag that he's not interested. Would you be interested in him if he wasn't a celebrity? Never give a man your phone number. I'm old-fashioned in my belief that if a man wants to call you, he'll ask you for your phone number. When women give men their phone numbers, they are giving away their power, their mystery, and what's worse it makes them look desperate. Let the man ask you for your phone number. If you make it too easy, then that's how you come across. 1
Author sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Well, everyone has different opinions on the 'who gives who their number' thing. I haven't exactly thrown myself at him lol. I thought he was a nice person, we have the same interests but the celebrity thing was a problem as he may not think I am being sincere. I always end the conversation ubruptly when I see him, so he may have thought I wasn't interested before.
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Well, everyone has different opinions on the 'who gives who their number' thing. I haven't exactly thrown myself at him lol. I thought he was a nice person, we have the same interests but the celebrity thing was a problem as he may not think I am being sincere. I always end the conversation ubruptly when I see him, so he may have thought I wasn't interested before. Well the only way around this is for you to be direct with him then, and ask him out on a date since that's what you want, isn't it? Do you end conversations with him abruptly b/c you feel awkward with his celebrity status? Or because you like him so much that you get flustered and nervous? I would say he probably doesn't think anything romantic about you giving him your phone number, if you haven't made it obvious to him already that you're attracted to him. And yes, it's possible he doesn't see you as a sincere person if you work in the movie industry where hobnobbing is the norm. If you want to be seen as a normal person who likes him, and you aren't old fashioned, then just send him a text, email or call him to ask him out and get it over with. If he says yes, go from there. That's why you should never give a man your phone number. Now you want to wait to see if he calls you? He may never do that. But if he'd asked you for your phone number you already know he likes you. Can you see my point now?
Under The Radar Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 First rule of dating: don't throw yourself at a man because he may not want to catch you. What prompted you to give this guy your phone number? His celebrity status? He may be used to women giving him their phone numbers. So, I think it was a huge mistake that you did that, especially if his agent already has your contact information from that charity event he did at your request. He didn't give you his phone number, so that's already a red flag that he's not interested. Would you be interested in him if he wasn't a celebrity? Never give a man your phone number. I'm old-fashioned in my belief that if a man wants to call you, he'll ask you for your phone number. When women give men their phone numbers, they are giving away their power, their mystery, and what's worse it makes them look desperate. Let the man ask you for your phone number. If you make it too easy, then that's how you come across. Respectfully, this is your opinion. I'm a guy and I can say this is not always true. I've had women pursue me before and I was interested. 2
Author sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 I work for a charity and I don't really have anything to do with the movie industry. Most men seem to only be after one thing and he seems to just be interested in me and my work. He is a bit older then me, I thought he would presume I wasn't interested for that reason. I was supposed to meet him at work one day before the gig, as he was being shown around by my friend, but I was too busy to see him. I am probably giving him mixed messages! Yes, I suppose I do feel awkward because of his celebrity status and yes I do see your point about giving him my number.
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Well then since your friend showed him around and not you, use THAT as your opening to see him again, and your reason to ask him out on a date. I know my values seem as old as the Dark Ages, but I'm only speaking from my own experiences with dating. When I've just given men my phone number without knowing their interest level, they rarely called me to ask me out. But when I've waited for men to ask me for my phone number, then I knew they liked me and wanted to spend time with me. I think you should just be direct and ask this man out. Put an end to any mixed messages that you've given him, by just being direct. What have you got to lose at this point? Nothing. He'll either say yes or no to your invitation. And then you'll know how to proceed forward. Or you can spend time waiting and stressing about whether or not he'll call you, regardless of his celebrity status because he's still just a person. I say contact him. Apologize for not being available to show him around, find out how the tour with your friend went, then ask him if he has time to meet you for a coffee, drink, lunch or whatever and see what he says. Life is too short not to take a chance, right?
Author sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Yes this is true. I'm not going to wait around for a call, I'm just going to keep busy and try not to think about it. Thanks 1
StanMusial Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 When I asked him to do it, he gave me his agent's details..... Hmm, you're going to be seeing him around, right? Kinda awkward and impulsive to give him your number like that, given the circumstances. I can see how it might come off as over eager or desperate. You can't undo it, so just forget about it.
Author sarah187 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Ha! He has just text me. In your face!! 1
StanMusial Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Ha! He has just text me. In your face!! LOL. Good luck!
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Ha! He has just text me. In your face!! That's awesome! Have fun! I hope it leads to something good!
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