Ex-Girlfriend Showing Signs, How Can I Get Her Back?

[DiscoFever]

So, I've been putting off posting this for some time but I've decided to just post it and see what people will say. It's a long story so bare with me.

 

In short I dated my ex-girlfriend close to 8 months this year, I'm 19 and she's 17, however she was raped mid-way through last year by her first boyfriend. He was an egotistical, manipulative sack of **** but she still loved him, they only met 3 times over the course of 6 months.

 

Skip forward a year he's been long gone and we were happily going out, but with what happened she's been incredibly sketchy, she's always been somewhat nervous around me but I helped show her I'm not going to hurt her, that I love her like a guy should. However her parents got word and said that it may be best if we don't see each other for some time until she's over the event, but we kept in a relationship in secret for her request waiting it out. (The last time I saw her in person was June 2013)

 

A few months after however, we split up. The relationship became too much of a strain and we kept fighting, so in the end we split up but chose to remain friends. It's now been 4 months and I feel things are improving, we've not properly had a fight since early September (when we split) but I feel sometimes she's giving me hot/cold behavior whenever we talk. (More on this later)

 

However, around 2 months ago I did something quite stupid. I told my ex a story which came out wrong, (I was downtown with a friend when she was almost grabbed by some guy, I stopped him thankfully. looking back in the conversation I didn't make everything all too clear to my ex) she went on to tell her mother and she told her to not talk to me. This is when the hot/cold behavior did kick off, but for the past two weeks things are improving.

 

Around 4 days ago however, was different. she somehow got word that I wasn't feeling too good (I was feeling slightly down, nothing that serious) and she messaged me asking what was wrong, I responded saying college is getting stressful where she gave quite a small blunt "Ah," reply. I asked what was wrong and she said "Just miss someone, distance shouldn't occur", this puzzled me as I'm the only guy that lives quite far from her while I'm the closest friend-wise to her, she's isolated herself from all male contact aside from me and a few friends so I really don't think there's a another guy in the picture.

 

As the conversation went on she said she's currently crying into her pillow, we never said all too much about this 'guy' but when I said 'he' in the conversation she joked "It could be a girl ;)" I joked back, and then left the conversation on a high note as she went off to bed. The next day, nothing. But I left a text before going to bed saying best of luck with tomorrow's therapy session, she came back some hours into the day and said thankyou, we never had a all too big conversation but she was keeping her distance at times.

 

However earlier today was the moneymaker, as we both watch football and support the same team I sent her a text when she was out telling her who's playing, we had a small conversation then left it. Around a hour or so after she came back asking for the score as it was near the end of the match, this conversation was a little more upbeat which I was happy about, the topic then switched from Football to X-Factor where she said she's not watching it tonight, I asked why and she said as her parents are out her brother and his girlfriend ordered Pizza and are going to watch a film, that film being the one I watched earlier in the year in the Cinema with her. I wished her to have fun where she came back saying "Will do! .. We watched that film together .. It was nice :)"

 

What's everybody's thoughts on this? I know I somehow have to resolve this issue that is now between me and her mother, but I don't know how. I know for a solid fact there's no other guy but I know less if she loves me again, but with what she said 4 days ago It does look like it.

 

Thankyou.

 

Edit: It may also be good to know before the problem between me and her mum arose she said we can see each other February onwards, but I know I have to solve this issue before then if I have a chance of getting back with her.

Edited December 7, 2013 by DiscoFever

[DiscoFever]

It may also be good for me to add from what I have learned over this past year is she acts on emotion, sometimes good sometimes bad.

 

Her text earlier still puzzles me, around 10 minutes after she sent it I responded in similar fashion saying I enjoyed it too, then left it as I didn't think I'll hear from her for the rest of the day with the mini-party, I was correct.

 

I'm thinking of just messaging her tomorrow to try sort out this misunderstanding between me and her mum about or bring it up mid-conversation (If we talk that is), as I can see that's still a problem I need to resolve if we are to get closer.

 

Any help anybody?

[DiscoFever]

Well, small update for all; Around this morning I just came out and said that I need to talk to her about something (Which was the story as I know that's still a problem).

 

We resolved it while she sounded somewhat off throughout, but we managed to resolve it in the end. She went off as there was some not-so-well-known-celebrity coming to town and her friends organized they all go meet him, so I let her go off.

 

About a hour ago her cousin posted some pictures of them with this guy so I know she was telling the truth, I've kept NC for the past hour then popped up around half a hour ago to ask how it went, the conversation went well and ran for about half a hour.

 

It feels that today was more of a step back than a step forward in a way, I'm happy I managed to clear the story up somewhat but now we're back to doing what we were doing a month ago, just both sitting on facebook not talking. I was thinking of going NC for now. thoughts?

Edited December 8, 2013 by DiscoFever