Ajax Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 So that's my question. I've only been dating my GF for four months, but while I was Christmas shopping the other day I found some lingerie that I can't stop myself from imagining her in. But I've never bought lingerie for anyone before, and four months feels a little early to me. What's everyone's thoughts?
BikerAccnt Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 In my many years of dating, and marriage, and dating again (I'm a guy) I have found that lingerie is seldom an appropriate, or appreciated gift. Be honest with yourself, are you getting it for her because it's something she wants, or getting it for you, because it's something you want to see her in? When you are ready for bed, or even for sex, do you feel like dressing up for it? Do yourself a favor, ask her what she really wants, then get her that. 2
blueskyday Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I like what the previous poster said. It is really a gift for you! Only buy it when you are having sex with a woman. ( I assume you two are being intimate.) If a guy buys before then, it's creepy and makes me feel pressured into having sex. Remember to buy something sensual, not necessarily stripper like. Maybe a low scooped back silk nightie to begin with. Then you can buy something more stripper with stockings, garter, peek a boo nipple cut outs, etc. I like it best when a guy mostly likes me simply naked. Build from there so she feels cherished as is.
soccerrprp Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I like what the previous poster said. It is really a gift for you! I like it best when a guy mostly likes me simply naked. Build from there so she feels cherished as is. Like this. I've never been a big fan of lingerie. I prefer my SO naked. If I need lingerie to get me MORE excited about my SO, there is a problem here. Lingerie as a gift is tricky. You may be sending the message that she needs to spice herself up to be more attractive and make her self-conscious. Also, watch out if it's too small or too big...you can imagine what that can do to a woman's confidence. In the end, it really is a selfish gift, no? Like earlier post said, buy something she wants.
MidwestUSA Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Like this. I've never been a big fan of lingerie. I prefer my SO naked. If I need lingerie to get me MORE excited about my SO, there is a problem here. Lingerie as a gift is tricky. You may be sending the message that she needs to spice herself up to be more attractive and make her self-conscious. Also, watch out if it's too small or too big...you can imagine what that can do to a woman's confidence. In the end, it really is a selfish gift, no? Like earlier post said, buy something she wants. While I completely understand this viewpoint, I've never had a problem receiving it as a gift. Last Christmas, my husband took his daughter with him to shop for it (my idea). It's harder to screw up with things that come in small, medium, and large only, such as a sheer robe, or whatever the proper name is for that thingy. Having said all that, I much prefer displaying the stuff in a pretty manner to wearing it! I hang it up where it can be seen while plodding around in my flannels and bunny slippers. Yep, most of that stuff is pretty impractical!
Elliotte Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Why not shop for some with her? I've found it's a good experience to check out a site like Adam and Eve together, being open about exploring things in the bedroom can be an a great part of a relationship! 1
soccerrprp Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 While I completely understand this viewpoint, I've never had a problem receiving it as a gift. Last Christmas, my husband took his daughter with him to shop for it (my idea). It's harder to screw up with things that come in small, medium, and large only, such as a sheer robe, or whatever the proper name is for that thingy. Having said all that, I much prefer displaying the stuff in a pretty manner to wearing it! I hang it up where it can be seen while plodding around in my flannels and bunny slippers. Yep, most of that stuff is pretty impractical! What? Only in S, M or L? That shows you how often I look at lingerie. I'm simply not turned on by it (that's a lie, yes I am, but don't require it). Besides, whenever I've had a SO in it, it doesn't stay on for long, so...eh. The best lingerie is my gf's naked body (oftentimes she doesn't even have to be naked )
MidwestUSA Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 What? Only in S, M or L? That shows you how often I look at lingerie. I'm simply not turned on by it (that's a lie, yes I am, but don't require it). Besides, whenever I've had a SO in it, it doesn't stay on for long, so...eh. Just the little robe thingies. I'd never advise a guy to buy panties, LOL! (who needs 'em?). The safe bet is to buy too small, and say 'but honey, I never IMAGINED you'd be considered medium!' My stuff is all in basically unworn condition, and there's not a single scuff on my only pair of 5 inch stilettos.
Balzac Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 As an only gift not/so-much. I'm all for you buying what you like. If she refuses to wear it - easy enough too e move on at 4 months. Not much surpasses fine silk and French lace on the female body. 1
WrinkledForehead Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Why not shop for some with her? I've found it's a good experience to check out a site like Adam and Eve together, being open about exploring things in the bedroom can be an a great part of a relationship! It's a dynamic my partner and I explored after several months. I have certain fetishes and he has his, and we shop together for new things to explore. Since discovering more about each other as sexual partners together, we better understand each other's interests. I'm buying a black lacy nighty for him for Christmas. 1
AMusing Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I agree with most of the other posters: no lingerie for a Christmas gift (especially if it's the only gift!). She'd probably prefer something a bit sweeter for your first holiday season together. That said, it doesn't seem like a bad idea to give it to her in the next few days, saying something like, "I saw this while Christmas shopping and thought it would look amazing on you." It's true, it's a compliment ("he thinks of me during his day!"), you get her in lingerie, and she still gets a less sexual Christmas gift. 2
FitChick Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I have certain fetishes and he has his, I'm buying a black lacy nighty for him for Christmas. Who is going to wear it?
lifeunderground Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I think you guys areally ridiculous I know I love lingerie and I know most girls too. It makes things hot in the bedroom too I agree however don't ONLY get her that, get that in addition to an actual christmas gift I know id love it if i had a man
theediblewoman Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 I've received lingerie as a Christmas gift and while it was beautiful, it didn't really feel like a gift for me,but more so for my boyfriend like others have said. That being said every woman is different and I do have friends who love lingerie and collect it,so she could love it. At 4 months however your relationship is still new and it might send the wrong message. As someone else said pick something a bit more thoughtful/sweet and give her the lingerie a few days later.Tell her the thought of her in it got you going,but you thought it was more of a gift for yourself and you wanted to get her something nicer. She'll be all the more happy because she'll get something sweet/thoughtful from you for Christmas and also know how sexy you think she is.
Els Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Just a weird gift for Christmas imo. Valentines is just around the corner, why not wait till then? Just make sure that unless she has explicitly stated that she loooooves lingerie, treat it as an extra - get her something romantic along with it too.
MalachiX Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Can't relate. I always just prefer a woman naked.
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