Andrew1985M Posted January 2, 2005 Posted January 2, 2005 I'm Confused!?!?! (Sorry if my story doesn’t read well I wasn’t in the mood for grammar) I have sooooo many happy memories of my ex way more than bad and it’s making it harder for me to get over her. We broke up in November 2004 after 2 years of being together. We also had a strong open close relationship up until we both went to university and shared the same house. I cant stress enough how perfect our relationship was then and how we both felt for each other, which now confuses me even more when I look at the situation I’m in now! I really cant explain how she’s changed we were both going through family troubles at the time and I wasn’t enjoying university or making many new friends I guess she was enjoying university more but then again I can think of many other reasons which may or may not of played a part in us breaking up. But these questions will have to go unanswered because she insists I shouldn’t contact her. She believes if I contact her it will make it harder for her to get over me which I can understand. I just want to know what was her motive for breaking up with me? Or don’t I want to know? And why she is acting as if she HATES me. I recently found out from a friend she’s taken to going out more and getting drunk more and she talks about me to others in a very unkindly way which is soo not like the character I knew and loved this was the person who I never knew to swear. I never did anything to warrant a break up not an obvious one like cheating on her. I don’t know if this helps explain anything but when we were breaking up one minute she went through all the options of having long distant relationships etc then the next minute she’s changing her mind and when I tried at the time to get anything from her all I got was a cold person who wouldn’t open up and insisted I left her alone which I have done. I haven’t spoken to her since the end of November but she’s still acting weird from the news I hear from my friend. She has also cost me a great deal of money due to myself quitting University and leaving the area and I still having to pay rent on my former flat up until my contract runs out plus I have a university loan to pay back. And I also have to wait another year to attend another university. She doesn’t understand what I’ve given up for her and she still treats me like ****! I just don’t want 2 years to show for nothing, I want some respect and not hate I know I’m not painting a very nice picture of her but she isn’t the type of person to screw people over and treat in this way its not her nature. The other thing which is bugging me is will I meet someone just as perfect as her in the future, or will another relationship never be the same? I don’t want to go through life having a second rate relationship compared to the first relationship. I ‘am getting there but things keep me from getting there especially when I have to wait a good part of a year to regain control of my life and go back to university when she’s already there doing what I should be doing. Any advice of coping or understanding someone motives for breaking up or if any of this sounds familiar to you please write me a response I need advice and plenty of it!
Mr Spock Posted January 2, 2005 Posted January 2, 2005 A. You, and ONLY you are responsible for screwing up your University. Not her. B. It wasn't THAT perfect of a relationship, or she'd still be with you. C. Her hating you is probably because SHE only remembers the stuff that irritated the hell out of her about you. You'd do well to think the same. D.Trying to be her sympathetic friend will only piss her off. E. STOP trying to listen to what people are saying about you and her. Stop eavesdropping for third party news about her. F.Not contacting her is a GOOD THING. G. Grow some balls, and try dating someone else.
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