Deverstated

[Devastatedovermyex]

Hi

 

I need to share my experience with other people

 

I am 28 and was going out with my ex girlfriend (24) for a year

We met online and hit it off straight away

The relationship was amazing but there was a point where i started to loose confidence in myself and had some periods where i was very down and upset

I held back from my ex meeting my friends and family as they lived quite far away and i was not very close to them

We had a holiday to Cyprus for 2 weeks at the end of july where we grew extremely close

Then after we got back 4 weeks passed before i went solo back packing for 4 weeks. We grew a little apart over this time and when i returned it all seemed so different and we only saw each other twice in two weeks before she split with me

Since then we txted a little met up once and made love then after a few days she went all cold and said she didnt want to get back with me

Ive been in pieces and on the verge of suicide because i love her so much and cant bare to not be with her anymore

Ive tried everything to prove my love even the stupid things of send ridiculous amounts of flowers to her, writing letters, giving her space etc

I seem to have pushed her away even more

She says we will never get back together and i just cant handle it

Im feeling constantly on the edge and crying all the time

I feel sick cant hardly work or be bothered to do anything and all i do is think about her

I feel terrible guilt that i should have made more of an effort when i returned from that trip

I would do anything for her to give me a second chance

Please help me

[Grumpybutfun]

Unfortunately, she doesn't feel the same way as you. You need to gather yourself up off the ground and move on with your life. By dwelling on what you cannot change (which is always the case with trying to change other people) you are wallowing in misery and making yourself even more depressed. Go to the gym, gather your friends around you, hang out and do some fun stuff, and remind yourself that in ten years you will barely remember her face or name.

You can handle it. You are an adult and you need to accept that life is sometimes unfair and sometimes others will not feel the same way about you as you do them. It is good she isn't wasting your time with leading you on, so now you can heal from this and move on to find someone more suited to you.

Good Luck,

Grumps