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I think I'm attracted to my doctor?

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:confused:

Not sure if this is the right category.

 

I'm uncomfortable writing this.. I have been over-analyzing and trying to figure out the reasoning behind why I felt some sort of initial attraction upon meeting a doctor for the first time. I have some awareness which I will post below (which I think are red flags for myself to be aware of). Some perspective from LS users could really help.

 

Background story:

 

I injured my foot stepping on some frozen dog sh*t. My podiatrist wasn't available so I had to see his partnering doctor. When I first saw him with another client while sitting down in the waiting room, my thought was "Whose that? He's a good looking guy." It is my assumption he locked eye contact with me once, if not twice. I felt some magnetism which is what I'm going on but am not sure about. We made some banter during my appointment. I don't get the impression he was flirting but wouldn't pick up on it unless it was very obvious. Pretty bad at picking up on that type of thing.

 

He seemed really laid back and nice as far as personality goes. In his presence I felt more or less intimidated, vulnerable and shy.

 

Now, I have to go back in a week for another visit because I need an x-ray taken. I was hoping it would be scheduled with him, but the receptionist ended up scheduling me with my original doctor.

 

I'm not sure if I want to pursue this and see if he shows some interest in me, or if it's one-sided. If I were to pursue it I was thinking of asking my original doctor if he knows if his partner is married or has a girlfriend. It seems pretty blunt and I don't know if that's the right way to go about it, but it's about as honest as I can get without running into him again. I trust and get along with my original podiatrist enough to ask..even if he were to relay that message back to his partner.

 

Also, I was told that telling him he is attractive or making the approach directly, shouldn't be done. I was advised against it by some girl pals. What's the harm in that, and what guy wouldn't appreciate a compliment like such?

 

I didn't think to glance for a ring..I'm not even taking myself seriously because I don't know that I'm ready to date. I also told myself I wouldn't. If he were single, then what? May not even act on it.

 

Possible red flags I might like him:

 

  • I'm fresh out of a relationship; a couple of months. My ex was studying to be a doctor.

 

  • He slightly resembles my ex.

 

  • Physical attraction, and now I like the thrill of the matter.
     

 

Would it hurt to pursue this, and is it for the wrong reasons? If I do pursue it, how do I go about it?

I can't say that I'm over my ex, but realizing I can take interest in other people now makes me a bit sullen.

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No health care professional can ethically persue a romantic relationship with a patient. The poditrist may even be breaking a law if he tried to date you before officially discharging you as a patient of the practice.

 

Don't persue this. You are most like misreading something.

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StanMusial Established Member

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Whew, so glad you didn't say he was your gynecologist.

FitChick Established Member

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If he's interested, he knows where to find you.

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HorseLuck Established Member

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Meh, I think I'm going to see that a message is relayed to him. Most likely won't see him again unless I plan it that way. If I do, I'll flat out ask him. The worst that can happen is that the subject is never discussed again.

I definitely won't push this, and I'm fine with rejection (makes sense) but I'd like to know whether or not I misinterpreted something.

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Most likely won't see him again unless I plan it that way.

 

You said he was your regular poditrist's partner. Unless you are planning to drop that doctor too, this guy can't date you.

 

I do understand that idea that we regret more what we don't do then what we do so on one level I applaud your decision to go after what you want but if you ask out the partner, are you prepared to have your regular poditrist drop you as a patient? It could happen. For that potential, I'd at least wait until you are discharged from this recent injury before doing anything. It's very hard to change doctors mid-care. Nobody wants to take on what they view as somebody else's mistake. This will also give you time to gather more intel on the podistrist you fancy.

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I just married a doctor and I can't tell you how many women hit on him.

 

Doctor can NOT date their patients. They could lose their medical licenses if they do.

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I'm attracted to a doctor too and will soon propose to her! Yay! :D

 

Anyway, for ethical and the self-IDed red flag reasons, I'd hold off on this.

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You said he was your regular poditrist's partner. Unless you are planning to drop that doctor too, this guy can't date you.

 

I do understand that idea that we regret more what we don't do then what we do so on one level I applaud your decision to go after what you want but if you ask out the partner, are you prepared to have your regular poditrist drop you as a patient? It could happen. For that potential, I'd at least wait until you are discharged from this recent injury before doing anything. It's very hard to change doctors mid-care. Nobody wants to take on what they view as somebody else's mistake. This will also give you time to gather more intel on the podistrist you fancy.

 

I didn't think of that donnivain, so thank you for pointing that out. My judgement is clouded. Do you mean to tell me though that in just asking my regular podiatrist if his partner is available, he might discharge me automatically? If I were to ask his partner out I'd understand the conditions and terms that apply, yes.

 

Wow, what a problem this is posing.

 

If I waited until after this injury was taken care of, I might be due back in a couple of months. I don't think my foot woes are over and I happen to love my doctor. Either way I'm going to want to know if his partner is available. Knowing and asking him out are two different things.

 

Also, is it smarter to ask him directly or my doctor?

 

There is another way to gain intel. I have a pharmacist in the family which my podiatrist was interested in working with. He was willing to take the route of finding out for me through general inquiry. That poses a different problem for me, but it's another option.

 

Lastly, if I'm rejected for a date I'm assuming I can continue to see my doctor- or is that a no go?

 

I'm feeling pretty bleak about this outcome. It started out with just wanting to know if there was attraction and that I wasn't crazy. If that turns out to be the case and he at least agrees it I'll be satisfied I guess.

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