wwwwww Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Hi everyone. Just here to vent. I have taken a hiatus from dating for a few years up until this past August when I was asked out randomly by a woman. She came on strongly, and she is very attractive. I am a male, in my lower 30's and she's 30. These days I really try hard not to judge people. I'd like to get to know people no matter where they come from or what habits they may have. I took a hiatus because I was engaged a lifetime before, but it didn't work out. And I simply just didn't want to date anymore up until that point. Back to the woman. She was incredibly attractive. And she did come on strongly. She is a single mother of a son. And this didn't bother me. Once we got to know each other, I was learning about her past relationships. Her prior boyfriend was a local businessman who ended up moving away. He eventually found someone else. Here's where the red flags start popping up. I also learned that she dated an older businessman for money. She swore that they never had physical activity, but he just paid her $1k a month just to accompany him to dinner. I just had to take her word for it, but it really bothered me inside. Other things she revealed about her family and what her personal past relationships were uncomfortable for me to hear about. Yet I appreciated her openness and her opinions on life. The relationship nosedived when she got a bartending job at a local douchey bar. To be honest I was not happy with this whatsoever. Because she is required to dress provocatively, and she does get hit on guys all the time. She insists that this is a good way to drive up tips. We did have a few arguments about it, but I rolled with it eventually. I just don't like how she gets off work at 5 in the morning, and hangs out with her co workers until 6. This is month 2 of the relationship. So another wrench gets thrown in when her guy friend moves back home because he is done with school. He just so happens to move into the same neighborhood as her, and he doesn't have a car. When he first got home, she did introduce me to him. Physically I found him to be no threat. Please forgive me as I am not trying to be boastful, but at my age when metabolism slows down, I am diligently a gym rat who likes to maintain a decent appearance. And this guy is Silent Bob's identical twin. Long hair, chubby, etc. So after meeting her guy friend I thought nothing of it. But a month goes by and we don't have sex. Almost on month two and we don't have any form of physical activity whatsoever, and I lost it last night. I work 16 hours a day and I am also a small local businessman. So last night was her day off and she called me earlier in the day and wanted to go out. She calls me in the evening wanting to meet up at 10 p.m. because she has to take her guy friend grocery shopping because he doesn't have a car. But the thing is, is that they spend a lot of time together, and she insists that he's her best friend and he insists that there is nothing there. And I pretty much let her know I was tired of not being appreciated. I take care of a lot of her expenses and I am lucky if I get a kiss on the cheek. I let her know that I do go above and beyond for her and I get no feedback and I feel like i'm being taken for granted. She then accuses me of treating her like a slut and accuses me of thinking she's banging all the guys out there and basically tries to flip the blame on me. But there is just no love coming from her end. She does call me daily, but sometimes I feel like she is just nice to me because I take care of her financially. I just ask with an open heart. Am I being an insecure little bitch? Am I under appreciated? I do get lonely like your average single person. I just need help thinking logically, rather than thinking from my nether regions. Any input positive or negative would greatly be appreciated. Happy Holidays everyone.
Grumpybutfun Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Here's where the red flags start popping up. I also learned that she dated an older businessman for money. She swore that they never had physical activity, but he just paid her $1k a month just to accompany him to dinner. I just had to take her word for it, but it really bothered me inside. The relationship nosedived when she got a bartending job at a local douchey bar. To be honest I was not happy with this whatsoever. Because she is required to dress provocatively, and she does get hit on guys all the time. She insists that this is a good way to drive up tips. So after meeting her guy friend I thought nothing of it. But a month goes by and we don't have sex. Almost on month two and we don't have any form of physical activity whatsoever, and I lost it last night. I pretty much let her know I was tired of not being appreciated. I take care of a lot of her expenses and I am lucky if I get a kiss on the cheek. I let her know that I do go above and beyond for her and I get no feedback and I feel like i'm being taken for granted. She then accuses me of treating her like a slut and accuses me of thinking she's banging all the guys out there and basically tries to flip the blame on me. But there is just no love coming from her end. She does call me daily, but sometimes I feel like she is just nice to me because I take care of her financially. This isn't a relationship, as you are her sugar daddy. The other guy is probably her real bf and you are supporting their lifestyle which she supplements with a douchey bartending job where she dresses provocatively for extra tips. She isn't having sex with you because her bf came back and he probably doesn't want her to have sex with the sugar daddy. This woman is all about the money. Move on. You are getting played. Grumps
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