alexa137 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 just wondering why men still remain on dating sites after they get a girlfriend?? I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, exclusive according to him about a month and a half after meeting and dating. He is on Tagged, Evow and recently just found out on Badoo.com also. What makes it worse is that his "looking for " says "to date women 34-48 yrs old, he actually has 2 profiles on Badoo.com the 2nd one just says to "meet new friends". so when i screenshot the profile and send it to him he got all mad, like he didnt believe it, so the next day i took my laptop over to him and signed on as me and showed him the profiles etc.and he says its not him and he doesnt know the email, blah blah blah, and he gets mad that i dont think about the good and how we are together out all the time but it still bothers me and i dont want to see my boyfriend(supposedly my future husband) "single" on dating sites. would like feedback from men and women, should i be worried??? am i wrong for asking him to remove his profiles from dating sites??
dontgo Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Women do the same thing. If he is still active on a dating site you are in trouble. People don't go to a dating site just to meet friends, ha. Last woman I met had a bf and her profile said single and looking for dating (Hell she even paid for me date, some people just be prone to cheat). I don't understand why someone would want to get into a relationship with someone who is cheating because hell they are prone to cheat on you down the road. Needless to say no 2nd date is in order for my case.
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 He's lying to you. Time to dump him. He doesn't want to be exclusive with you if he still has dating profiles up. He's definitely not "future husband" material if you have to ask him to remove his active online dating profiles. He gets mad when you ask him? Huge red flag. Doesn't matter that you spend all your time together. Men still cheat via text and email or at work have emotional affairs, or he could be meeting other women behind your back after work, during work, who knows. If he really thought you two were meant to be he would have deleted all of his online dating profiles already. But it's 10 months later and he still hasn't deleted them. Huge red flag. Should you be worried? Yes. Should you stay with him? No. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 If he said it wasn't him & doesn't know the e-mail how do you know it is him? If he's still on a dating site, I'd dump him. My advice for anybody who meets through OLD: no sex until the profiles come down & stay down.
TheGuard13 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 Couldn't he just be too lazy to take his profile down? I mean it takes like 15 seconds. Took me nine months to even remember I had a couple out there.
nescafe1982 Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 OP, you phrase your question like it's normal to leave one's dating profiles up when in a relationship... like it's "something men do." It's not normal. It's a huge red flag. If he's still on those sites, he's still looking for other women. End of story. Talk to him. Ask him why he's on the sites. If he says ANYTHING other than "opps my bad, I'll take them down right now," you need to dump him immediately.
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