kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Here's my backstory: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/439705-lt-gf-left-me-my-roommate-still-love-her I've been in NC for over a month now. I was feeling pretty happy today. I'm seeing other girls, things have progressed well. In fact, this morning I was just thinking how blissful this ignorance was. I have no idea what my ex is doing, if she's still with the guy she cheated on me with, nothing. Then I log on facebook. One of her best friends, who didn't delete me, posted some video and it showed up on my timeline. She lives in NYC but occasionally posts videos online of funny stuff and tags people in it. Often, she would tag me, my ex, her boyfriend, and herself. Well, she posted one today and tagged her boyfriend, my ex (even though I blocked her I can still see her name), and the guy she cheated on me with, my ex-roommate. I unfriended her instantly. Probably something I should have done before. Her and I have had zero contact since the breakup. But the damage was already done. I'm no longer ignorant. I was getting over it, and then I was struck by this pain. Just knowing that they are still together, that he's worked his way into her circle of friends, sent a pain up through my chest that I haven't really ever felt. I still think my ex is a bitch, and so do my friends. There's been nothing happening between us in a month. I've been moving on, and hoping karma comes and bites her in the ass. Then this happens, salt in the wounds. She's even still staying friends on facebook with some of my friends, from what they've told me. She's even talking to some. This blows.
organizedchaos Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 yeah, I unfriended all of my ex's friends as well. If they tagged her in anything it would show up in my timeline. I never had anything like what you're experiencing happen, but needed to head that off asap.
Author kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 I'm going through and deleting people in her family, and friends who were more hers than mine. I know why this is important because I don't want to come across any of them, but there's that part of me that hopes this sends a message...
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Sorry to hear about your set back. Let your unfortunate situation be a lesson to others. Delete, un-friend or whatever it is you do to a FB account after a BU... I wouldn't know, as I don't have one and don't ever plan on getting one...
Author kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 (edited) Everything that I could possibly do has been done. Her friends and family were deleted, she's blocked, my ex-roommate (who she cheated on me with) is blocked. Tomorrow night I'm going to this formal holiday party with a date. I like her and she likes me. Many pics will be taken, and I'm sure there will be one of my date and I. That same part of me that hopes she gets the message about deleting her family, hopes that she'll see a pic of my date and I. I hoped her sister or one of her friends would see it, something. And that she would get jealous, or something. Something that would give me some power over her. You know? Guess that won't happen now that I unfriended them all. Damn. Edited December 6, 2013 by kfey
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Meh... Just work on your own healing and recovery and forget about her jealousy, etc... 1
organizedchaos Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Everything that I could possibly do has been done. Her friends and family were deleted, she's blocked, my ex-roommate (who she cheated on me with) is blocked. Tomorrow night I'm going to this formal holiday party with a date. I like her and she likes me. Many pics will be taken, and I'm sure there will be one of my date and I. That same part of me that hopes she gets the message about deleting her family, hopes that she'll see a pic of my date and I. I hoped her sister or one of her friends would see it, something. And that she would get jealous, or something. Something that would give me some power over her. You know? Guess that won't happen now that I unfriended them all. Damn. This is about YOU getting better. Not about making her jealous. The best thing you can do is vanish from her life. Mine still hasn't unfriended my friends and even some of my family yet.
Author kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Mine still hasn't unfriended my friends and even some of my family yet. I know, neither has mine? Who does she think she is? Look, I'm getting better every day. But there's still this part of me that I keep referring to. It sometimes wants revenge, it sometimes wants her back. It's a mess. I know how not to self-sabotage, and I've taken all the steps to preventing that by blocking her everywhere. I am strong enough not to contact her. She could contact me if she actually wanted to, though.
Author kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Meh... Just work on your own healing and recovery and forget about her jealousy, etc... See, part of me WANTS her to be jealous. The vindictive part of me. Wants her to pay for what she did.
aliveagain Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Don't delete her friend until you post a hot picture of you and your hot date at the party, you bending her backwards while planting a wet one on her, than delete her the following day. 1
Author kfey Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 ^Exactly! But it's too late. I already deleted em all. Blocked a few too.
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 See, part of me WANTS her to be jealous. The vindictive part of me. Wants her to pay for what she did. This won't help you in any way. None!!!
JDPT Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I guess it's safe to say that you dodged a bullet. And I would put money on the line that she will do the exact same to this new guy. So who is the winner here? Be glad man.
JDPT Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 See, part of me WANTS her to be jealous. The vindictive part of me. Wants her to pay for what she did. Not worth it and I tell you from personal experience. I let my emotions get the best of me and wanted payback as we'll. But I can guarantee you that you will accomplish nothing, in fact it will leave you feeling worse. 1
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