mariposa_13 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 (edited) I have been on a few dates with a guy, but we have now gone home for our Christmas breaks and won't see each other for a few weeks. I really like this guy and can see this going somewhere, however how can I make sure we don't lose contact over the next few weeks? We have agreed that we would like to continue our dates when we get back, and that we would like to get to know each other better I want to get to know him better and want us to open up more to each other, have deeper conversations rather than the usual talking about what we are up to. I have been waiting for him to lead the conversation onto a more meaningful topic but he isn't initiating. I don't know if it's because he is too shy, or maybe he isn't sure if I like him. When i ask him a a regular question, like what he's up to he is very open and gives detailed answers.. but I want to get deeper than that! As I said we have only been on a few dates, so haven't really told each other we like each other or what we are both looking for. So I feel like maybe I need to initiate this. I'm worried we will drift apart if all we will talk about via emails/text messages is our daily activities! What kind of questions can I ask without sounding too random and like I'm asking him 20 questions? Edited December 6, 2013 by mariposa_13
ShyGuy5 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Just initiate it. I know personally I don't mind answering any question, but I feel weird asking girls certain things because I don't know how they will react to it.
devilish innocent Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I can think of two tacks you might want to use. The first would be to work the questions off of what he's telling you about his day. For instance, if he mentions something he's done with his family, then you can ask questions about what his family is like or how well he gets along with them. The other way to work in these questions would just be to start off by saying, "So I want to learn a little bit more about you." Then you could work some random questions off of that. For instance, "What was your childhood like? Was it good or bad? What is your happiest childhood memory?" You might want to save some topics for when you see him in person though. I'm sure he understands that communication is limited when you're far away and isn't going to hold it against you.
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