slyk1970 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 This site was suggested to me by an acquaintance months ago and I had jotted it down then and just came across it now. Curious if there are any other widows or widowers here? Or anyone whose partner has passed? Interested in hearing and learning about how others are coping with such a loss? Thanks
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 This site was suggested to me by an acquaintance months ago and I had jotted it down then and just came across it now. Curious if there are any other widows or widowers here? Or anyone whose partner has passed? Interested in hearing and learning about how others are coping with such a loss? Thanks Welcome!! Do you mind sharing your story with us? I haven't personally lost anyone, but I know people who have and it's painful to watch. I have compassion for everyone who is going through that kind of loss. I'm here to listen...
HokeyReligions Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 (edited) I have not lost my husband but have lost others and his health is precarious. I am very seneitive to the emotions surrounding grief. I have no support system and am fearful how I will manage. I hope that,if you are going thru this, you can find some comfort and hope. I'm a long time member of loveshack but I don't know that its the safest place if you are feeling particularly vulnerable. I'm also on a site called Beyond Indigo, which I have found to be very helpful and caring. Tho LS is great for a wide variety of opinions and stimulating conversation. As an active distraction its great and we all need some distraction. I cope with my losses in a lot of ways. Bad tasteless humor. Tears. Fits of cleanliness. Devil's advocate posts here on touchy topics. Lots of dog hugging. Volunteer work - even if its as simple as being a collection point for donations or chairing a fundraiser. Sometimes I read. Sometimes I give in and wallow - even missing work because of it. I did not receive affection as a child. When I was 5 - 6 I took a shirt and stuffed it with towels for the arms and a pillow for the head and body, sewed the cuffs together and cried myself to sleep wishing for a real hug. When my husband almost died last year I did the same with one of his shirts and cried myself to sleep. Edited December 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author slyk1970 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Thank you. I'd rather not share my story here but I appreciate your kindness!!
Author slyk1970 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Thank you HonkeyReligions. I will check out that site. Sorry you don't have a support system but there are many resources available when you need them - it takes a little legwork but they are out there. Sad to hear that you had that experience as a young child, I hope you get lots of hugs now. Appreciate the ideas very much & I chuckled because most of them I do!! Just need to incorporate more healthy & positive distractions. I hope that it is possible for your husband's health to improve. Stay strong & definitely give in and wallow whenever it strikes you, it's a great release. Thanks again so much.
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