ks0985 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Did the NC thing for 3 weeks and she found out about me dating other women. She was really jealous and upset but I told her it was her decision to break up with me and that I was starting to move on. She told me she was confused why I was not "fighting for her by begging and pleading to take her back. Also that her friends were in her ear about what to do blah blah blah. Huge learning experience for me I became a WUSS plain and simple. Flaws that I had previous were jealousy, needy, clingy glad the breakup happened so I can learn from this. She also felt a sense off loss because I got a new job bartending. Anyways were at the stage now where the ball is in my court. I just wanted to share my story since some guys here feel everything is lost. My lesson move on with your life and let things happen as they may. Cheer! Also thanks everyone for your support here. 2
Chi townD Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Okay....So, what are you going to do? What's your gameplan?
Author ks0985 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 (edited) Okay....So, what are you going to do? What's your gameplan? Still trying to decide if I want to take her back. She is trying hard really chasing me now. But I really don't know weird huh 3 weeks ago I would of taken her back and now I'm here undecide She's also talking about Christmas presents already....would that not be too soon don't you think? I feel like that's rushing things Edited December 6, 2013 by ks0985
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Not sure what kind of bar you're tending at, but my advice would be to stay single for a bit and enjoy the fringe benefits that go along with that sort of job 3
Chi townD Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Not sure what kind of bar you're tending at, but my advice would be to stay single for a bit and enjoy the fringe benefits that go along with that sort of job Unless he works at a gay bar! Or...maybe.... Not judging here! ...J/K!
Author ks0985 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Not sure what kind of bar you're tending at, but my advice would be to stay single for a bit and enjoy the fringe benefits that go along with that sort of job Haha yeah had our orientation my lady co workers are very nice on the eyes .
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Did the NC thing for 3 weeks and she found out about me dating other women. She was really jealous and upset but I told her it was her decision to break up with me and that I was starting to move on. She told me she was confused why I was not "fighting for her by begging and pleading to take her back. Also that her friends were in her ear about what to do blah blah blah. Huge learning experience for me I became a WUSS plain and simple. Flaws that I had previous were jealousy, needy, clingy glad the breakup happened so I can learn from this. She also felt a sense off loss because I got a new job bartending. Anyways were at the stage now where the ball is in my court. I just wanted to share my story since some guys here feel everything is lost. My lesson move on with your life and let things happen as they may. Cheer! Also thanks everyone for your support here. Nothing changed in three weeks. She is "wanting you back" based in insecurity. Once she gets you, its the same thjng over again. Don't do it. 5
barky2 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Not sure what kind of bar you're tending at, but my advice would be to stay single for a bit and enjoy the fringe benefits that go along with that sort of job Also did the bartending gig for awhile as a second job after my breakup. Believe me stay single and enjoy every night and the perks that come with it Barky 2
Author ks0985 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Nothing changed in three weeks. She is "wanting you back" based in insecurity. Once she gets you, its the same thjng over again. Don't do it. Maybe so but like I said I'm in no rush to make a decision. Since the breakup things have started going well for me in my life. Reconnecting with old friends, meeting with new women, new job opportunities. Not in the same place where I'm all or nothing with her. Quite happy with my life now
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Maybe so but like I said I'm in no rush to make a decision. Since the breakup things have started going well for me in my life. Reconnecting with old friends, meeting with new women, new job opportunities. Not in the same place where I'm all or nothing with her. Quite happy with my life now Good then keep doing it. Why try and mess that up? I swear to you she panacked because she felt you were moving on and she wasn't. She wants you back because she feels lost because she feels like she can't have you. Once you have her back in that way, it will stay good for awhile and it will go back to where it was before the breakup. Keep doing it right and you'll find someone better. You really want someone who comes and goes on her own time?
Author ks0985 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Good then keep doing it. Why try and mess that up? I swear to you she panacked because she felt you were moving on and she wasn't. She wants you back because she feels lost because she feels like she can't have you. Once you have her back in that way, it will stay good for awhile and it will go back to where it was before the breakup. Keep doing it right and you'll find someone better. You really want someone who comes and goes on her own time? For sure. Thats why I haven't come running back to her I really need to decide if its work it. I'm not convinced it is yet
Simon Phoenix Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Three weeks is way too little time. You are jumping into the same broken relationship that you did before if you do this. I'd continue NC or give as little contact as possible. 1
mikecr50 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 ks YOU GO BOY!! You made my day great story. Now if you want my two cents, think about why you broke up, is she willing to work on things? It's no crime to try again only a crime if you don't fix things. But if you're young (under thirty) and she's not the one best just move on.
cavalier99 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 She doesnt want you back. She wants TO KNOW she can have you back. This would be a horrible way to start up with her again. I mean you could get back with her but then it is mission accomplished for her and youll end up back where you were before. Keep on recovering and forget her. Id stop entertaining the thought of getting back. Your going to tear out your stiches that you have formed. Cav 3
Iguanna Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 One of the most important conditions to create and keep a good and honest relationship is to understand that between the couple there is no war or game to be won, you are in the same team and the prize is the well being of the relationship. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 One of the most important conditions to create and keep a good and honest relationship is to understand that between the couple there is no war or game to be won, you are in the same team and the prize is the well being of the relationship. Man, I tried to live by this and get her on-board with this idea so many times. But it was a war. A game. And I lost before it even started!!!
Iguanna Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Man, I tried to live by this and get her on-board with this idea so many times. But it was a war. A game. And I lost before it even started!!! We have to discard whatever we don't like. Life is short.
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