ryane5798 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I have been dating this woman since Last Year. She lives an hour from me and we have been meeting about once a month and text almost everyday. Last year during Christmas, she stopped responding to my texts, emails and phone calls. Would not respond at all for 2 weeks. I got very frustrated and upset and stopped contacting her. Then all of a sudden I got a text from her and she went on as if nothing happened. When I asked for a explanation she said she saw her ex husband with a woman and have been upset. I accepted her explanation and we have been dating again. Now she is financially strapped and I have been helping her out. But when she asked me to co-sign on her student loan, I did not because we are not committed yet. This happened during summer. but she seemed ok with that and we have been talking and meeting. Now she has stopped responding to me again. Will not respond to my texts, email and phone messages. It has been a month now. Very frustrating and feel very ignored. What should I do? Should I wait for her to contact me and take her back or just dump her?
anne1707 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I'm sorry but I think she has (in a very underhand, cowardly way) already dumped you. Whatever you do, don't give her another chance - she is out for what she can get. 1
organizedchaos Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I have been dating this woman since Last Year. She lives an hour from me and we have been meeting about once a month and text almost everyday. Last year during Christmas, she stopped responding to my texts, emails and phone calls. Would not respond at all for 2 weeks. I got very frustrated and upset and stopped contacting her. Then all of a sudden I got a text from her and she went on as if nothing happened. When I asked for a explanation she said she saw her ex husband with a woman and have been upset. I accepted her explanation and we have been dating again. Now she is financially strapped and I have been helping her out. But when she asked me to co-sign on her student loan, I did not because we are not committed yet. This happened during summer. but she seemed ok with that and we have been talking and meeting. Now she has stopped responding to me again. Will not respond to my texts, email and phone messages. It has been a month now. Very frustrating and feel very ignored. What should I do? Should I wait for her to contact me and take her back or just dump her? Have some self respect and stop being so submissive to her. Find someone who lives near you.
Zahara Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 What should I do? Should I wait for her to contact me and take her back or just dump her? Really? You're asking if you should take her back. Whacked on the head twice and you don't learn? Sure, take her back. Then come on LS and ask the same question when she does it again.. 3
d0nnivain Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I don't think you have to bother to break up with her. I think she already broke up with you albeit in a passive aggressive way. I'm sorry but at least you know that it's over. If you want to dot your i's & cross your t's you can send her an official text or e-mail goodbye.
Chi townD Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Sounds like she was using you. It kinda sounds like she was using you as a rebound from her Ex. Once she discovered that he moved on, she put you on the backburner. She came back and then asked you to cosign on a student loan. You said "no" and guess what! She's gone again! Time to move on dude.
stillafool Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 It never really sounded like she was your girlfriend. It's over and no do not contact her anymore.
radiodarcy Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 He action (or inaction) says it all. Do not respond to any of her attempts to contact you after this. Bear in mind, she's just trying to bait you into giving her attention, an ego boost, whatever benefits her. Her contacting you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her fulfilling her own needs. Take the power out of her hands; stop feeding into her game and go no contact. I was in a similar situation and after weeks of listening to his lame excuses, book-ended by long silences that lasted for several days (he too would come back and act as though nothing happened); I came to my senses and went NC. He made two more attempts to contact me after that - - which I ignored and then I never heard from him again. I'll admit, it stung. But it's better than dealing with the stomach-churning frustration of that terrible game of push/pull.
Simplysimon Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Ignore her completely for 60 days do not respond at all...make her focus man or get rid
Keenly Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 If she has ignored you for a month, what the hell are you doing .
Author ryane5798 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 Thanks everyone for the advice. I think I am not going to contact her again or respond to her if she does. I am still attached to her and it is going to be hard. But it is time to move on and find someone that will appreciate me.
nevergoodenough Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 I have been dating this woman since Last Year. She lives an hour from me and we have been meeting about once a month and text almost everyday. Last year during Christmas, she stopped responding to my texts, emails and phone calls. Would not respond at all for 2 weeks. I got very frustrated and upset and stopped contacting her. Then all of a sudden I got a text from her and she went on as if nothing happened. When I asked for a explanation she said she saw her ex husband with a woman and have been upset. I accepted her explanation and we have been dating again. Now she is financially strapped and I have been helping her out. But when she asked me to co-sign on her student loan, I did not because we are not committed yet. This happened during summer. but she seemed ok with that and we have been talking and meeting. Now she has stopped responding to me again. Will not respond to my texts, email and phone messages. It has been a month now. Very frustrating and feel very ignored. What should I do? Should I wait for her to contact me and take her back or just dump her? She has dumped you already. Plus, you don't know what she is up to because you don't live close. Even if she comes back, you should put an end to this. She seems to be playing games and using you. Were I you, I would find someone that cares enough to not ignore you while they are dating you.
Author ryane5798 Posted December 7, 2013 Author Posted December 7, 2013 She still owes me money that I loaned to her and she promised to pay. I guess I will have to forget that since there is no way I can contact her.
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