mandyxo Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 So i just got off the phone with my bestfriend, who is really good friends with my ex's EX girlfriend. Who he is still friends with. My ex would talk to his ex randomly while we were together, it bothered me big time. This whole breakup, i been back and fourth about wanting to get back together with him. He would tell me he missed me. Loved me etc.. I just came to the realization that he never loved me. Ever.. and it hurts so much. I am in so much pain. I'm so angry that i let myself care for this man. He told his ex girlfriend that he never loved me. Who told my friend. Who told me. She told me because i been questioning everything and just asking what she thought. And his bestfriend, who is my bestfriends ex boyfriend also told me he doesn't give a **** about me.. he hasn't called me since Sunday, and the only reason he called was to talk about money i owe him. He's in jail till the 18th so i didnt expect many phonecalls but his bestfriend gets a phonecall every day.. so i made the decision that this guy was not worth it. But to know that this whole time, he talked behind my back to his ex girlfriend about how he didnt love me makes me so sick. I actually loved and cared about him. Im in so much pain right now. I'm so disgusted.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 hey kid listen up... "I'm so angry that i let myself care for this man". that's what you said. this is what im saying: "never be angry at yourself for letting yourself care for someone". what youd be saying is that youre angry for being a caring person. screw that. youre an awesome person who has a caring heart. your heart got hurt by the wrong person. that's not your fault. get up right now, stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself, "its not my fault". go. come back, and finish read the rest... you said hes in jail, right? so... hes a winner? I want you to feel this pain. know why? cause you need to right now. it sucks, trust me I know. but, this pain is going to teach you to watch out for your heart in future relationships. youre youre #1 girl. got it? you have to take care of yourself, FIRST. no one else. youre going to learn from this crappy experience that not everyone can be trusted. and as time goes by, youre going to realize, "man, I really need to watch out for myself better next time". youre going to be just fine. you have an amazing heart, youre kind, generous. you just found a douche of a guy. that's all he his. a douche. 1
LadyM Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I can empathize. My boyfriend would tell me he loves me, but in the end, he was only infatuated and I don't believe he has a true ability to really "love" anyone. I also have difficulty coming to terms with the fact that I fell for such a con-artist. I gave my heart to someone who could not be trusted with it. As far as his telling his ex-gf that he never loved you - we really don't know if that's true. People say things. He may have loved you but wanted to appear cavalier to his ex-gf. Could be lots of reasons he said that to his ex-gf. BORED is right - that you can care about someone is a beautiful thing - you just came across someone who didn't deserve your love. This man is no prize for you. In jail? Do you really want that in your life? He is exactly where he needs to be - far away from you. The pain and disgust you feel you WILL get over, but a lifetime with a man like him will drag you down and devastate you forever. As much as this hurts, be glad he's gone as you would hurt MUCH more if he were to remain in your life. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 You were already vulnerable due to the loss of your job Everything is magnified. Cut yourself some slack. 1
Author mandyxo Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 hey kid listen up... "I'm so angry that i let myself care for this man". that's what you said. this is what im saying: "never be angry at yourself for letting yourself care for someone". what youd be saying is that youre angry for being a caring person. screw that. youre an awesome person who has a caring heart. your heart got hurt by the wrong person. that's not your fault. get up right now, stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself, "its not my fault". go. come back, and finish read the rest... you said hes in jail, right? so... hes a winner? I want you to feel this pain. know why? cause you need to right now. it sucks, trust me I know. but, this pain is going to teach you to watch out for your heart in future relationships. youre youre #1 girl. got it? you have to take care of yourself, FIRST. no one else. youre going to learn from this crappy experience that not everyone can be trusted. and as time goes by, youre going to realize, "man, I really need to watch out for myself better next time". youre going to be just fine. you have an amazing heart, youre kind, generous. you just found a douche of a guy. that's all he his. a douche. Thank you. This made me feel so much better. This is why i come to this forum.. it makes me feel better. Advice from complete strangers seems to be better advice then i get from the people around me. What i have realized is that i am a nice person. I care so much about people, even when they dont deserve it.. that's not a bad thing. I have a huge heart. I'm sensitive and kind. So at least i have that.. and he is such a unkind person. He is cold hearted. He is not capable of loving ANYONE or anything but himself.. and I cant change that.
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