How did NC make u feel as a dumper?

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

Having read A LOT about no contact and the effect it is "supposed" to have I am yet to come across anything from a dumpers perspective... so I was wondering if anyone has dumped someone and then been the recipient of NC how did it make u feel? x

[Treasa]

When I've been the dumper, it's honestly given me relief. But then, I didn't break up with people unless I was sure I wanted it over.

[Eddie007]

You can find threads out there on this site and others.

 

Trust me I looked through them all at one point as I was looking for my glimpse of hope.

 

It seems for most dumpers it takes many months or even years for NC to have any effect. This also doesn't mean they will act on it.

[vassilbg]

I'm a guy, 32. Had many relationships, most of which I was the dumper. When a dumpee went into NC, it was always a relief for me. I've had women beg and plead, and sometimes not a peep. I tend to check out of the relationship about 2 weeks to a month prior to breaking things off.

 

Every woman I've dated, though, has always come back for a 2nd go regardless of who did the dumping. Some I've accepted, others I kindly declined. NC is for you, who gives a sh*t what the dumper feels?

[Sugarkane]

People seem to love bragging if they're friends with exes/ have exes contact them. Whenever I've been the dumpee, I've hoped not contacting them at all, hurt their ego. Because they csnt gloat then.

[stillafool]

When I've been the dumper, it's honestly given me relief. But then, I didn't break up with people unless I was sure I wanted it over.

 

 

Same here. When I've broken up with someone it was the best thing they could do for me. NC is to help you get over them and not expect anything from the dumper. That's why it's best to change all contact info. This way you won't know that they are not trying to reach you and move on to healing.

Edited December 6, 2013 by stillafool