orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 So me and this girl went fishing a twice but it was with a friend tomorrow were going out just the two of us. My brother in law works with her and he said she asked why him and my sister didn't want to go. This made me think that she didn't want just the two of us to go. I didn't text her today to see if she would text me and she did we talked about tomorrow I told her I would pick her up she said sounds good and she was excited. Is this the first date? Im kind of new to all of this stuff. Should I ask her about her ex I know both of our last relationships ended the same way but she never told me. what else should we talk about? When I take her home should I walk her up to her door? just a few question I had any advice will help a lot.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Don't bring up exes. Just talk to her like a regular person and see where it goes. Last thing you want to do is get on the boat and talk about her ex and make it awkward for the rest of the time 1
ChrisMintchev Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Let just say It is the First Date with the two of you. 1. Most of the time when someone is waiting for a girl to text them She is also waiting. It's a way of confirming she likes you. You already know she likes you because you already hung out with her and now you are going on a date just the two of you. I found that most relationships start as friends and are just tipping over to exclusive relationship. 2. I dont know how much physical contact you had with her but make sure you hug her when you first meet her for the date. Hugging releases feel good hormones and oxytocin to biologically make girls attracted to you. If you didn't touch her or think hugging her would be way to out of the picture from what you normally do. Make playful touches and taps when talking and joking. 3. DONT TALK ABOUT EXs. It doesn't matter. Talk about common interests. Talk about fun stuff.Talk about fun stuff in the future you want to do. Adventures hobbies concerts. Dates are suppose to be fun. Make believe she's your good friend that you have an attraction for. You have to have fun with her. 4. If you want to be a gentlemen walk her up to the door. Girls like that stuff. Don't be afraid to express your interest in her as long as it is done with confidence. From a frame of mind as I'm interested. Are you? If not I'll move on. You have to be willing to move on. I'm guessing you want to girlfriend. If this girl doesn't accept then move on because some girl out their is searching for you. Most important thing is relax don't over think and have fun. Focus just on having fun and the rest will come together naturally. Let me know how it goes!
Author orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Thanks Chris for the advice. I won't bring up her ex. Last time we hung out when I took her home she asked me for a hug. When I pick her up should I go knock on the door or text her she lives with her mom still?
Vogeltron Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I can not tell you how important this is. I wish I had someone tell me this when I was in my teens and early 20's. Reach down and grab your balls. Tell yourself you are the man. Whatever it is you do with this girl. Absolutely make sure you take control and define the relationship. I am speaking in general I don't know you. But if you where kinda a shy person like me reach down tell yourself I got this and move on. Never ask a girl about there past. Personally I would even respond about my own. Leave it as it is. Take charge and control what is going on. Does not matter if you ever even have sex or make out with this girl etc. Even if you are a virgin who cares don't talk about it. Set a precedent about how you deal with women etc. Women aren't attracted to shy guys or pushovers. Nice guys finish last. That is for sure. There is something to be said for humble and wholesome I agree. But at some point you have to take charge.
ChrisMintchev Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Thanks Chris for the advice. I won't bring up her ex. Last time we hung out when I took her home she asked me for a hug. When I pick her up should I go knock on the door or text her she lives with her mom still? Make sure you give her a hug when you see her. She wants you to want her. This is how it seems to me when a girl asks for hugs. It would be better to knock on the door. Say hi to the mom and if it seems like it would be a comfortable situation. Hug her if her mom is there. It's just a hug but it means a lot to girls. Also if you see something you like about her. Compliment her. Compliments go a long way. What I realized about myself is I was always holding back compliments and nice gestures from girls bc i was scared of the girls not accepting those kind gestures and feeling dumb. Why hold back caring and love? Your not only hurting yourself but also the girl. Do you get mad or respond negatively at someone because they compliment you? I don't lol However, I still catch myself holding back out of a bad habit. I realized that in just doing those kind things the girls open up so much quicker and feel comfortable because you are being congruent with your desires from within. Basically being more yourself. Try something different if you'd like. You may find something interesting about yourself and her you never would of thought other wise. Good Luck and bring back some good news!
emva07 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 no talk about ex's, go and knock on the door, be a gentleman. 1
Author orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Ok Ill go knock on the door. I felt she didn't want just the two of us to go but she text me and told me she was excited for tonight.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 I can not tell you how important this is. I wish I had someone tell me this when I was in my teens and early 20's. Reach down and grab your balls. Tell yourself you are the man. Whatever it is you do with this girl. Absolutely make sure you take control and define the relationship. I am speaking in general I don't know you. But if you where kinda a shy person like me reach down tell yourself I got this and move on. Never ask a girl about there past. Personally I would even respond about my own. Leave it as it is. Take charge and control what is going on. Does not matter if you ever even have sex or make out with this girl etc. Even if you are a virgin who cares don't talk about it. Set a precedent about how you deal with women etc. Women aren't attracted to shy guys or pushovers. Nice guys finish last. That is for sure. There is something to be said for humble and wholesome I agree. But at some point you have to take charge. I agree with you 100%. Im shy I treated my ex like a princess what ever she wanted she got. I paid for everything when we went out which is how i feel it is suppose to be. But I was overall nice to her all the time never did anything that would make her mad. I learned quick being nice gets you no where she walked all over me and would lie all the time. Im going to take your advice and tell myself I'm the man Im in charge.
Babolat Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 First, GO O's! 2nd, you want this to be a date, right? And, you don't know if she sees it as a date, right? Then, get rid of your anxiety and tell her, "I see this as a date" or "I want to take you on a date".
Author orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 First, GO O's! 2nd, you want this to be a date, right? And, you don't know if she sees it as a date, right? Then, get rid of your anxiety and tell her, "I see this as a date" or "I want to take you on a date". Thats right go o's. I would like to say its a date she told me Im not going to know what to think because the last two times we hung out we were dirty from fishing or i see her when she's working Ive never seen her dressed up and she said she was getting dressed up.
emva07 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Maryland in the house. I'd say its a date. She's getting dressed up for you. Both are interested and seeing where it goes.
Author orioles1744 Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 That's what I thought. If it wasn't a date and she wasn't interested why would she be getting dressed up. And I do need to put my anxiety aside and walk up I'm over thinking that part like what will she think.
Babolat Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I guess all I am saying is remove the "is it a date" anxiety, "does she like me" anxiety, and just tell her, for you, this is a date.
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