TheShepherd Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I know its the age old question and all but I still need some reassurence. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. I love her and she loves me but we have been fighting almost non stop for about two months and I think it's time to end it. There's also the fact that she's been talking about getting married and I'm not even close to being ready to think about that. Does that make me a bad guy? Anyways, like I said, I love her and I care about her and her emotions so I really don't want to hurt her to bad. I want to break up but I want it to go as smoothly as possible. Any ideas help.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I know its the age old question and all but I still need some reassurence. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. I love her and she loves me but we have been fighting almost non stop for about two months and I think it's time to end it. There's also the fact that she's been talking about getting married and I'm not even close to being ready to think about that. Does that make me a bad guy? Anyways, like I said, I love her and I care about her and her emotions so I really don't want to hurt her to bad. I want to break up but I want it to go as smoothly as possible. Any ideas help. If you love each other, then why don't you sit down and talk about the fighting. If it is something that can be fixed, then you can work on that and if it can't, then you can move on. If you do break up, then Just be honest, feelings are going to be hurt, but lies are going to hurt that much more. 1
daisydook Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Be honest with her. She will be upset most likely, but at the end of the day, if you aren't happy together, there is no shame in ending this relationship. You should not be ashamed of ending something when you are both miserable. Be calm. Tell her you need to talk. Tell you the things you have said here. It sucks to hear someone tell you they love you, but don't think you are meant to stay together, but in the long run, she should appreciate it one day. She will. I know I have. I cant even imagine myself with some of the guys I dated! LOL!!! I don't know what I was thinking but at the time, it is exactly what I wanted and I was happy. Are the fights you have with one another over getting married? Or are your fights over any and every little thing? I wish you luck. Just be honest with her. She will freak out and you need to remain calm and solid in your decision, when and if you end things.
crederer Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 There's no "easy" way to do it. You just gotta be honest about it and don't pull some chicken **** "it's not you, it's me" type of move. Just tell her, "hey, this isn't working for either of us. We both know this. You're a good person but we're not meant to be together." Then get the hell outta dodge. It'll get emotional, most likely.
Vogeltron Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Whatever it is that is causing the fighting you need to lay it on the table. Say you can not deal with it anymore. Maybe that triggers something you can work it out if you even want to if. If not that is you way out. Either way I firmly believe honesty is best policy, tell her how you see it. Hopefully get her true and honest perspective and move forward. Either with or without her. But make sure you if it is over you have a solid closing to any relationship.
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